21 .…… to refuse to let other people's bad manners goad you into retaliating in kind.（有一件不容易做到的而又很重要的事情，）就是對別人無禮貌的舉止不要以牙還牙。
… if other people are impolite，don't treat them in the same way.
goad ******************./sth into （sth./doing sth.） 激起、激怒……做……
His ambition goaded him on.他的雄心激勵他前進。
Young people are easily goaded into action，wise or foolish.年輕人容易受激采取行動，而不顧是否明智。
in kind 用類似的方法
She will be repaid in kind for her impoliteness.她對人不禮貌，人家也會對她不禮貌。
The police were told not to respond in kind even when the demonstrators attacked them.警察得到命令，即使*者動手他們也不得還手。
22.…but he'll be discourteous，stupid and blind——and that's a combination I don't want to tangle with .（如果我開大燈，）他就不僅僅是不禮貌和愚蠢了，還看不見前方。三樣加在一起，我不愿意招惹。
……h(huán)e will not only remain discourteous and stupid，but also unable to see clearly the road ahead of him.I don't want my bad manners to cause an accident.
tangle with **********.about…argue，fight with ************.（inf.） 與………吵架
The wife often tangles with her hu*********and about trifle things.妻子經(jīng)常與她丈夫為雞毛蒜皮的事吵架。
23.In the long run ，the kind of person you are is the result of what you've been thinking over the past twenty or thirty years.從長遠的觀點看，你的人品是你以往 20 年或 30 年的思想發(fā)展的結(jié)果。
Your way of thinking determines what kind of person you are.If you are a self-centered person，you will surely be discourteous.On the other hand，if you think of other people's needs and feelings，you will be a considerate and courteous person.
in the long run：從長遠來看
In the long run，what they have sacrificed for their children is worthwhile.從長遠看，他們?yōu)楹⒆幼龀龅臓奚侵档玫摹?BR> what you've been thinking…the way you've been thinking（all your life for a long time）
24.…you train to be considerate of others，if you can acquire the habit of identifying with their problems…如果你培養(yǎng)自己為他人著想，如果你已經(jīng)慣于理解并體諒他人的問題、愿望和憂慮，（你就會自然而然地以禮待人。）
considerate/be considerate of *********.體諒，為……著想，考慮……的需要愿望和感情
it is considerate of *********.to do sth.
It is considerate of you to send my mother a pair of new glasses.She is losing her eyesight.你想的太周到了，給我媽寄了付眼鏡去，她的視力變得不行了。
We like Professor Li very much，for she is a very considerate teacher.我們很喜歡李教授，她很能體諒學(xué)生。
identify with *********./sth.：feel you understand them or their feelings and ideas 理解、體諒……
He can well identify with the problems of the unemployed；he has been without a job.他完全能夠理解失業(yè)人員的困難，他也失業(yè)了。
25.Nowhere is thinking courteous more important than in marriage.理性的禮貌在婚姻中比在其他任何方面都更為重要。
Conscious courtesy is more important in marriage than anywhere else.
In marriage relationship，the most important thing is to be courteous to your hu**********and or wife.
26.In the intimacy of the home it is easy to displace disappointment or frustration or anger onto the nearest person，and that person is often a hu******************and or wife.在家庭這個親昵的環(huán)境中，（人們）很容易把失意、沮喪或氣憤向最親近的人發(fā)泄，此人往往不是丈夫就是妻子。
When you are disappointed or frustrated or angry，you are likely to take it out on your hu*********and or wife because home is the place where you think you don't have to suppress emotions.
displace sth.onto ***********./sth.：shift sth.onto **********./sth.把……（由）轉(zhuǎn)移到……身上
Why do you displace your anger on me？ I have nothing to do with the matter.你為什么把氣出到我頭上？我與這件事毫無關(guān)系。
27.When you feel your anger getting out of control…。 當你感到忍不著要發(fā)火，……
be/get out of control：be/become impossible to manage 失去控制
get/bring sth.under control 使……得以控制，遏制住……
The car went out of control and ran into the tree.車失去了控制，撞到一棵樹上。
The government has to take measures to bring the inflation under control.政府必須采取措施，以遏止通貨膨脹。
28.I knew that if they could impose just ten minutes of good manners on themselves，the worst of the storm would blow over：我知道要是他們能夠克制自己，堅持十分鐘的禮貌，火氣大體上就會平息。
If they force themselves to behave politely for ten minutes，both the hu******and and wife would calm down，and no big quarrel would take place.
impose sth.on *********./sth 把………強加于……。使……交稅，受罰
You should not impose your view on us.你不應(yīng)該把你的觀點強加在我們頭上。
Occupation of Iraq does not mean that the U.S.has the right to impose its will on the Iraqi people.占領(lǐng)伊拉克并不意味美國有權(quán)把它的意愿強加在伊拉克人民頭上。
blow over：go away without having a serious effect （暴風雨等）停止，平息； （問題、不愉快的事情）被淡忘
The scandal blew over quickly.丑聞很快被淡忘了。
My hu***and and I have frequent quarrels，but they soon blow over.我和我的丈經(jīng)常吵架，但是吵架很快就忘了。
29.…… you must be able to accept courtesy，receive it gladly，rejoice when it comes your way .禮貌還包括能夠接受他人對你的文明舉止，受到禮遇要高高興興，當它不期而至?xí)r要以喜悅表示歡迎。
come one's way：get or experience sth.unexpectedly or by chance （事情）被某人碰上
Actually I didn't look for the job.It came my way.事實上，這份工作不是我刻意去找的，而是碰巧得到的。
Such opportunities never come my way.我從來就沒碰上過這種機會。
accept 愿意接受 /receive 收到
I received an invitation last night，but I didn't accept it.
… if other people are impolite，don't treat them in the same way.
goad ******************./sth into （sth./doing sth.） 激起、激怒……做……
His ambition goaded him on.他的雄心激勵他前進。
Young people are easily goaded into action，wise or foolish.年輕人容易受激采取行動，而不顧是否明智。
in kind 用類似的方法
She will be repaid in kind for her impoliteness.她對人不禮貌，人家也會對她不禮貌。
The police were told not to respond in kind even when the demonstrators attacked them.警察得到命令，即使*者動手他們也不得還手。
22.…but he'll be discourteous，stupid and blind——and that's a combination I don't want to tangle with .（如果我開大燈，）他就不僅僅是不禮貌和愚蠢了，還看不見前方。三樣加在一起，我不愿意招惹。
……h(huán)e will not only remain discourteous and stupid，but also unable to see clearly the road ahead of him.I don't want my bad manners to cause an accident.
tangle with **********.about…argue，fight with ************.（inf.） 與………吵架
The wife often tangles with her hu*********and about trifle things.妻子經(jīng)常與她丈夫為雞毛蒜皮的事吵架。
23.In the long run ，the kind of person you are is the result of what you've been thinking over the past twenty or thirty years.從長遠的觀點看，你的人品是你以往 20 年或 30 年的思想發(fā)展的結(jié)果。
Your way of thinking determines what kind of person you are.If you are a self-centered person，you will surely be discourteous.On the other hand，if you think of other people's needs and feelings，you will be a considerate and courteous person.
in the long run：從長遠來看
In the long run，what they have sacrificed for their children is worthwhile.從長遠看，他們?yōu)楹⒆幼龀龅臓奚侵档玫摹?BR> what you've been thinking…the way you've been thinking（all your life for a long time）
24.…you train to be considerate of others，if you can acquire the habit of identifying with their problems…如果你培養(yǎng)自己為他人著想，如果你已經(jīng)慣于理解并體諒他人的問題、愿望和憂慮，（你就會自然而然地以禮待人。）
considerate/be considerate of *********.體諒，為……著想，考慮……的需要愿望和感情
it is considerate of *********.to do sth.
It is considerate of you to send my mother a pair of new glasses.She is losing her eyesight.你想的太周到了，給我媽寄了付眼鏡去，她的視力變得不行了。
We like Professor Li very much，for she is a very considerate teacher.我們很喜歡李教授，她很能體諒學(xué)生。
identify with *********./sth.：feel you understand them or their feelings and ideas 理解、體諒……
He can well identify with the problems of the unemployed；he has been without a job.他完全能夠理解失業(yè)人員的困難，他也失業(yè)了。
25.Nowhere is thinking courteous more important than in marriage.理性的禮貌在婚姻中比在其他任何方面都更為重要。
Conscious courtesy is more important in marriage than anywhere else.
In marriage relationship，the most important thing is to be courteous to your hu**********and or wife.
26.In the intimacy of the home it is easy to displace disappointment or frustration or anger onto the nearest person，and that person is often a hu******************and or wife.在家庭這個親昵的環(huán)境中，（人們）很容易把失意、沮喪或氣憤向最親近的人發(fā)泄，此人往往不是丈夫就是妻子。
When you are disappointed or frustrated or angry，you are likely to take it out on your hu*********and or wife because home is the place where you think you don't have to suppress emotions.
displace sth.onto ***********./sth.：shift sth.onto **********./sth.把……（由）轉(zhuǎn)移到……身上
Why do you displace your anger on me？ I have nothing to do with the matter.你為什么把氣出到我頭上？我與這件事毫無關(guān)系。
27.When you feel your anger getting out of control…。 當你感到忍不著要發(fā)火，……
be/get out of control：be/become impossible to manage 失去控制
get/bring sth.under control 使……得以控制，遏制住……
The car went out of control and ran into the tree.車失去了控制，撞到一棵樹上。
The government has to take measures to bring the inflation under control.政府必須采取措施，以遏止通貨膨脹。
28.I knew that if they could impose just ten minutes of good manners on themselves，the worst of the storm would blow over：我知道要是他們能夠克制自己，堅持十分鐘的禮貌，火氣大體上就會平息。
If they force themselves to behave politely for ten minutes，both the hu******and and wife would calm down，and no big quarrel would take place.
impose sth.on *********./sth 把………強加于……。使……交稅，受罰
You should not impose your view on us.你不應(yīng)該把你的觀點強加在我們頭上。
Occupation of Iraq does not mean that the U.S.has the right to impose its will on the Iraqi people.占領(lǐng)伊拉克并不意味美國有權(quán)把它的意愿強加在伊拉克人民頭上。
blow over：go away without having a serious effect （暴風雨等）停止，平息； （問題、不愉快的事情）被淡忘
The scandal blew over quickly.丑聞很快被淡忘了。
My hu***and and I have frequent quarrels，but they soon blow over.我和我的丈經(jīng)常吵架，但是吵架很快就忘了。
29.…… you must be able to accept courtesy，receive it gladly，rejoice when it comes your way .禮貌還包括能夠接受他人對你的文明舉止，受到禮遇要高高興興，當它不期而至?xí)r要以喜悅表示歡迎。
come one's way：get or experience sth.unexpectedly or by chance （事情）被某人碰上
Actually I didn't look for the job.It came my way.事實上，這份工作不是我刻意去找的，而是碰巧得到的。
Such opportunities never come my way.我從來就沒碰上過這種機會。
accept 愿意接受 /receive 收到
I received an invitation last night，but I didn't accept it.