溝通技能不管是工作中還是生活中都非常重要。同事、客戶、家人、朋友，你會(huì)跟他們溝通嗎？提高溝通技能和社交能力是社會(huì)人的必修課，你學(xué)會(huì)下面這9種方法了嗎？以下是由整理的相關(guān)信息！歡迎閱讀！
Communication is an essential part of work and home life. Understanding how to be a good communicator can be an important productivity tool, one that’s frequently neglected. Poor communication can often have disastrous results; lost time, injured feelings, frustration, ineffective meetings, unproductive teamwork, resulting in a general lack of career advancement and goal achievement. To become effective communicators we need to be aware of a few fundamental tips we can use in our work and life interactions. Regardless of the situation, the same rules apply.
溝通是工作和生活中都必不可少的一部分。了解如何能更好地溝通可以極大地提高工作效率，但是這一點(diǎn)往往被人們所忽略。溝通不善經(jīng)常會(huì)導(dǎo)致?lián)p失慘重；浪費(fèi)時(shí)間、傷害感情、令人失望、會(huì)議無(wú)效、團(tuán)隊(duì)工作沒有收獲，結(jié)果是很難在職場(chǎng)晉升，也很難實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)。要想有效地溝通，我們需要了解幾個(gè)基本的溝通方法，把這些方法用在工作和生活的交往中。無(wú)論何種情況，這些規(guī)則都適用。
1. Show Appreciation
表示感謝
Prior to getting into the meat of your conversation, be sure to express your thanks for the other individual’s time. Time is an extremely precious resource, and it is important to be respectful and considerate of that. Also, complement or recognize any positive contribution they are making. Appreciation and praise can go a long way towards building good rapport.
在開始談話之前，一定要向?qū)Ψ匠槌鰰r(shí)間和你談話表示感謝。時(shí)間是非常寶貴的資源，能意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)并表示敬意是非常重要的。另外，對(duì)他人做出的貢獻(xiàn)要給予認(rèn)可并加以贊美。欣賞和贊美對(duì)建立融洽的關(guān)系有很大幫助。
2. Connect
建立聯(lián)系
Connect on a personal level if possible. Look for places where interests overlap if any exist. Even in a professional situation, there may be some personal interests in common, hobbies, sports, children, etc. Take care to avoid such controversial topics as political leanings or religious beliefs. A real sense of connection makes a difference in the tone and outcome of the current conversation and most likely future communications as well.
有可能的話和他人建立私交?？匆幌履銈兪欠裼邢嗤呐d趣。即使是專業(yè)人士，也會(huì)有一些相同的興趣和業(yè)務(wù)愛好，如體育愛好、育兒等。要注意避免如政治傾向或宗教信仰等有爭(zhēng)議性的話題。建立私交后，談話的語(yǔ)氣和結(jié)果都會(huì)變得不同，未來(lái)的交流也可能有所不同。
3. Watch tone
注意語(yǔ)調(diào)
While it’s sometimes necessary to be assertivein order to make your point, don’t be aggressive. There is a fine line between the two. Try not to cross it. An adversarialtone is not in any way productive. Be confident and direct, while still adopting a calm, cooperative tone.
雖然有時(shí)在陳述自己觀點(diǎn)時(shí)要顯得自信，但是不要咄咄逼人。這兩者之間有著細(xì)微的界限，不要越界。對(duì)抗性的語(yǔ)調(diào)不會(huì)有任何好的 結(jié)果。要自信而率直，并保持沉著合作的語(yǔ)調(diào)。
4. Stay positive
保持積極的心態(tài)
Maintaining a positive attitude is crucial to productive communications. Be constructive rather than negative or complaining. People shut down, effectively ending any real communication when they feel attacked or criticized. Be encouraging and kind even when expressing concerns or displeasure.
要想有效地溝通，保持積極的心態(tài)至關(guān)重要。要給出建設(shè)性的建議，而不是負(fù)面的批評(píng)或者抱怨。當(dāng)人們覺得受到攻擊或批評(píng)時(shí)，就會(huì)斷絕聯(lián)系不進(jìn)行任何真正溝通。即使是表達(dá)憂慮或不悅時(shí)也要友善待人、振奮人心。
5. Focus on the result
關(guān)注結(jié)果
It’s important to figure out what result you are after before you start the conversation. Knowing your objective helps you to direct the conversation and to remain on point. What are you hoping to accomplish? Are you trying to give help, resolve a conflict, or collaborate on a project or issue? Are you seeking advice or trying to influence behavior? Your desired outcome helps to determine the flow of communication.
在談話前想清楚談話的結(jié)果非常重要。明確目標(biāo)能助你直達(dá)主題并讓對(duì)話圍繞主題展開。你想完成什么？你是想得到幫助，還是想解決爭(zhēng)端，抑或合作完成一個(gè)項(xiàng)目或解決一個(gè)問(wèn)題？你是在尋求建議還是想影響對(duì)方的行為？你想要的結(jié)果會(huì)影響談話的發(fā)展。
6. Listen
學(xué)會(huì)傾聽
Eye contact is crucial. Be polite and don’t interrupt. No one likes being interrupted and though it’s natural to want to rush in to make your point, it’s very disrespectful of the other person’s thoughts. Try to understand the other person’s perspective. Maintain an open mind. Learning how to value different viewpoints can be an important communication tool.
眼神交流很重要。要有禮貌，不要打斷對(duì)方的談話。沒有人喜歡被人打斷，每個(gè)人急著想表明自己的觀點(diǎn)，這是非常自然的，但這卻是對(duì)別人想法的不尊重。試著去理解他人的想法。保持開放的態(tài)度。學(xué)會(huì)去權(quán)衡不同的觀點(diǎn)是非常重要的溝通技能。
7. Request feedback
尋求反饋
Confirm that you have a mutual understanding of what’s being communicated. We often think that we’ve reached a resolution and come to an understanding, only to find out that we have completely misunderstood the other person’s thoughts. This not only confirms that you have successfully communicated; it also makes the other person feel that they have been heard and understood.
確認(rèn)一下雙方對(duì)談話內(nèi)容的理解是不是一致。我們經(jīng)常以為形成了解決方案、達(dá)成了共識(shí)，結(jié)果往往是我們完全誤解了他人的想法。尋求輸入和反饋。尋求反饋不僅能確保順利溝通，也會(huì)讓對(duì)方感覺到你在傾聽并理解了他們的想法。
8. Notice non-verbal cues
注意身體語(yǔ)言
Watch body language. Lack of eye contact, distraction, or fidgetingare often signs of restlessness or impatience. Yawning or sighing are usually signs of mental or physical fatigue. When you notice these types of non-verbal signals, it’s a sign that this conversation is not going to be a productive one. Quickly wrap up the conversation, postpone the conversation, or inquire about the discomfort if your relationship allows.
觀察身體語(yǔ)言。要是對(duì)方缺少眼神交流、或分神、坐立不安，這往往是煩躁不安或不耐煩的標(biāo)志。打哈欠或嘆氣通常是精神或身體上疲倦的標(biāo)志。當(dāng)你注意到這些類型的非語(yǔ)言信號(hào)時(shí)，你要知道這表示這次對(duì)話不會(huì)有什么作用。迅速完成談話或推遲談話。如果你們的關(guān)系還不錯(cuò)的話，還可以問(wèn)一下對(duì)方是不是不舒服。
9. Follow-up
后續(xù)工作
Be clear about what actions will be taken and establish accountability. Confirm deadlines, responsibility, and expectations. If relevant, document any agreements in writing. A clear understanding of what is supposed to happen next can help avoid a conflict later on.
要清楚會(huì)采取何種行動(dòng)并建立問(wèn)責(zé)制。確認(rèn)后期限、責(zé)任和期望。如果可以，把相關(guān)的協(xié)議用書面的形式保存下來(lái)。明確下一步能夠避免過(guò)后的爭(zhēng)端。
Always try to end your communication in a friendly manner. Reiterateyour thanks and try to leave the other individual feeling understood and valued. Productive communication involves respect, consideration, awareness, and clarity. It is possible to be both direct and kind and still get the results you want.
盡量用友好的態(tài)度去結(jié)束每交流。重申你的感謝之意并讓他人感到你的理解和珍視。想要交流取得成效，你需要尊重關(guān)心談話對(duì)方，感悟和明確談話內(nèi)部。你可以率直而友善地與對(duì)方交流，也還是能得到你想要的結(jié)果?！ ?BR>