Unspoken Messages
不言而喻的消息
陳豪在北京的ABC美國公司工作。他散會(huì)后跟同事Amy一起往外走。
(Office ambience)
A: CH, What happened to you during your presentation?
C: 你注意到什么了嗎？
A: You were doing a great job. You obviously had done extensive research. You had good materials. You were completely confident until half-way through.
C: 這么說你能看出我后半截很不自在？
A: Yes. You suddenly became unsure of your self.
C: 唉，都是因?yàn)镸r. Stone, 上個(gè)月從紐約來的副總。
A: What about him?
C: 他根本沒看我，一直在看其他文件。
A: Did you try to ignore that?
C: 我也試著不去管他，可注意力就是集中不起來。
A: Did Mr. Stone do anything else?
C: 他還在椅子上轉(zhuǎn)來轉(zhuǎn)去，不斷看窗外。
A: He's the key decision maker these days.
C: 是啊，現(xiàn)在公司一切都是他說了算，更糟糕的是，他剛剛讓秘書通知我，要找我談話。
A: Try not to let this upset you too much until you meet with him. Let me know what happens, will you?
陳豪下午去找Amy。
A: How did things go with Mr. Stone?
C: 完全是虛驚一場。Mr. Stone還表揚(yáng)我，說我工作很有成績。
A: That's great.
C: 看他早上開會(huì)時(shí)的表現(xiàn)，難道我的擔(dān)心是多余的嗎？
A: You were reading his body language this morning and he clearly wasn't sending a positive message.
C: Body language? 肢體語言？
A: Words aren't the only way we communicate. We send messages with our bodies.
C: 那Mr. Stone的肢體語言為什么跟他的想法不一樣呢？
A: Perhaps he was distracted or had something else on his mind. Evidently he was listening to you, but that is not the impression you got.
C: 下次再遇到這種情況，我應(yīng)該怎么辦呢？
A: Normally, you could have stopped at that point and asked for questions or opinions, specifically addressing the person who didn't seem to be involved.
C: 停下來征求意見和問題？可Mr. Stone是老板??？
A: In this case, you were in a tough spot since he is the vice-president.
C: 你別說，有了這件事，我今后肯定會(huì)特別注意自己的肢體語言。
A: That's a good lesson for all of us. Too often we send nonverbal messages without being aware of how others interpret them.
C: 這么說來，很多誤解都是在不知不覺之中產(chǎn)生的。
A: Body language can be used to impress people or to turn them off. It is directly related to good manners if you think about it.
C: 肢體語言怎么會(huì)跟一個(gè)人的禮貌和修養(yǎng)有關(guān)系呢？
A: Positive body language like giving someone your full attention and having a pleasant expression on your face are all part of showing courtesy and respect.
C: 注意聽別人講話本身就是對(duì)別人的尊重。
不言而喻的消息
陳豪在北京的ABC美國公司工作。他散會(huì)后跟同事Amy一起往外走。
(Office ambience)
A: CH, What happened to you during your presentation?
C: 你注意到什么了嗎？
A: You were doing a great job. You obviously had done extensive research. You had good materials. You were completely confident until half-way through.
C: 這么說你能看出我后半截很不自在？
A: Yes. You suddenly became unsure of your self.
C: 唉，都是因?yàn)镸r. Stone, 上個(gè)月從紐約來的副總。
A: What about him?
C: 他根本沒看我，一直在看其他文件。
A: Did you try to ignore that?
C: 我也試著不去管他，可注意力就是集中不起來。
A: Did Mr. Stone do anything else?
C: 他還在椅子上轉(zhuǎn)來轉(zhuǎn)去，不斷看窗外。
A: He's the key decision maker these days.
C: 是啊，現(xiàn)在公司一切都是他說了算，更糟糕的是，他剛剛讓秘書通知我，要找我談話。
A: Try not to let this upset you too much until you meet with him. Let me know what happens, will you?
陳豪下午去找Amy。
A: How did things go with Mr. Stone?
C: 完全是虛驚一場。Mr. Stone還表揚(yáng)我，說我工作很有成績。
A: That's great.
C: 看他早上開會(huì)時(shí)的表現(xiàn)，難道我的擔(dān)心是多余的嗎？
A: You were reading his body language this morning and he clearly wasn't sending a positive message.
C: Body language? 肢體語言？
A: Words aren't the only way we communicate. We send messages with our bodies.
C: 那Mr. Stone的肢體語言為什么跟他的想法不一樣呢？
A: Perhaps he was distracted or had something else on his mind. Evidently he was listening to you, but that is not the impression you got.
C: 下次再遇到這種情況，我應(yīng)該怎么辦呢？
A: Normally, you could have stopped at that point and asked for questions or opinions, specifically addressing the person who didn't seem to be involved.
C: 停下來征求意見和問題？可Mr. Stone是老板??？
A: In this case, you were in a tough spot since he is the vice-president.
C: 你別說，有了這件事，我今后肯定會(huì)特別注意自己的肢體語言。
A: That's a good lesson for all of us. Too often we send nonverbal messages without being aware of how others interpret them.
C: 這么說來，很多誤解都是在不知不覺之中產(chǎn)生的。
A: Body language can be used to impress people or to turn them off. It is directly related to good manners if you think about it.
C: 肢體語言怎么會(huì)跟一個(gè)人的禮貌和修養(yǎng)有關(guān)系呢？
A: Positive body language like giving someone your full attention and having a pleasant expression on your face are all part of showing courtesy and respect.
C: 注意聽別人講話本身就是對(duì)別人的尊重。