I'm one of those people who's terrible at saying no. I take on too many projects at once, and spend too much of my time doing things I'd rather not be. I get stuff done, but it's not always the best I can do, or the best way I can spend my time.
That's why my newest goal, both as a professional and a person, is to be a quitter.
Being a quitter isn't being someone who gives up, who doesn't see important things through to the end. I aspire to be the opposite of those things, and think we all should. The quitter I want to be is someone who gets out when there's no value to be added, or when that value comes at the expense of something more important.
I want to quit doing things that I'm asked to do, for no other reason than I'm asked to do it. I want to be able to quit something in mid-stream, because I realize there's nothing good coming from it.
A friend of mine once told me that "I knew I was an adult when I could stop reading a book, even after getting 500 pages into it." Odd though it sounds, we all tend to do this. We get involved in something, realize we don't want to be a part of it, but keep trucking through. We say "well, I've already invested so much time in this, I might as well stick it out."
I propose the opposite: quit as often as possible, regardless of project status or time invested. If you're reading a book, and don't like it, stop reading. Cut your losses, realize that the smartest thing to do is stop before your losses grow even more, and quit. If you're working on a project at work that isn't going anywhere, but you've already invested tons of time on it, quit. Take the time gained by quitting the pointless project, and put it toward something of value. Instead of reading an entire book you hate, read 1/2 a bad one and 1/2 a good one. Isn't that a better use of your time?
If you're stuck doing something, and don't really want to do it anymore, step back for a second. Ask if you really have to do this, and what value is being produced from your doing it. Don't think about the time you've put into it, or how much it's taken over your life. If you don't want to do it, and don't have to do it, don't do it.
By quitting these things, you'll free up time to do things that actually do create value, for yourself and for others. You'll have time to read all the great books out there, or at least a couple more. You'll be able to begin to put your time and effort into the things you'd actually like to do.
Let's try it together: what are the things you're doing, that you're only doing because you've been doing them for so long? Quit. Don't let time spent dictate time you will spend. Let's learn how to say "no" at the beginning, or in the middle, and free up more of our time to do the things we'd like to be doing, and the things actually worth doing.
Saying no is hard, and admitting a mistaken yes is even harder. But if we do both, we'll start to make sure that we're spending our time creating value, rather than aggravating our losses. Let's be quitters together.
What do you think? What in your life can you quit?
我是一個(gè)很糟糕的人說(shuō)不。我承擔(dān)太多的項(xiàng)目,花太多的時(shí)間我寧愿不做事。我做的東西,但它并不總是的我能做的,或者我可以花時(shí)間的方式。
這就是為什么我的最新目標(biāo),作為一個(gè)專業(yè)的和一個(gè)人,是一個(gè)輕易放棄的人。
放棄不放棄的人,誰(shuí)沒(méi)有看到重要的事情進(jìn)行到底。我渴望成為這些東西的反面,并認(rèn)為我們都應(yīng)該。輕易放棄我想要的人就沒(méi)有價(jià)值時(shí),或當(dāng)該值為代價(jià)的東西更重要。
我想放棄做我要做的事情,沒(méi)有別的原因,我要求這樣做。我希望能夠在中途放棄的東西,因?yàn)槲抑罌](méi)有什么好。
我的一個(gè)朋友曾經(jīng)告訴我,“我知道我是一個(gè)成年人,我可以不去讀一本書,即使獲得500頁(yè)。“這聽(tīng)起來(lái)有些奇怪,但是,我們都傾向于這樣做。我們參與,實(shí)現(xiàn)我們不想成為它的一部分,但是讓卡車通過(guò)。我們說(shuō)“好吧,我已經(jīng)投入了很多時(shí)間在這方面,我也會(huì)堅(jiān)持到底?！?BR> 我建議相反:盡可能經(jīng)常辭職,不管項(xiàng)目狀態(tài)和時(shí)間投資。如果你讀一本書,和不喜歡它,停止閱讀。減少你的損失,意識(shí)到之前做的最聰明的事情就是停止你的損失增長(zhǎng)更多,和戒煙。如果你工作在一個(gè)項(xiàng)目工作,不會(huì)在任何地方,但你已經(jīng)投入了大量的時(shí)間,放棄?；〞r(shí)間通過(guò)放棄毫無(wú)意義的項(xiàng)目,并把它向有價(jià)值的東西。整本書你討厭讀書,讀1/2半一個(gè)好一個(gè)不好。這不是一個(gè)更好的利用你的時(shí)間?
如果你堅(jiān)持做,不想做下去,退后一步。問(wèn)如果你真的要這樣做,是什么值產(chǎn)生從你這樣做。不考慮你投入的時(shí)間,或者多少接管你的生活。如果你不想做,沒(méi)有去做,不要這樣做。
通過(guò)放棄這些東西,你會(huì)騰出時(shí)間做事情做創(chuàng)造價(jià)值,為自己和他人。你將有時(shí)間閱讀所有的書籍,或至少兩個(gè)。你就可以開(kāi)始把你的時(shí)間和精力投入到你真正喜歡做的事。
讓我們一起試一試:你正在做的事情,你只有做因?yàn)槟阋恢痹谧鏊麄冞@么長(zhǎng)時(shí)間?辭職。不要讓時(shí)間決定你將花時(shí)間。讓我們學(xué)會(huì)說(shuō)“不”的開(kāi)始,或者在中間,并釋放出更多的時(shí)間去做我們想做的事情,和真正值得做的事情。
說(shuō)“不”是很困難的,承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤是的就更難了。但如果我們做,我們會(huì)確保我們花時(shí)間創(chuàng)造價(jià)值,而不是加重我們的損失。讓我們一起戒煙。
你怎么認(rèn)為?什么在你的生活中你能辭職嗎?
That's why my newest goal, both as a professional and a person, is to be a quitter.
Being a quitter isn't being someone who gives up, who doesn't see important things through to the end. I aspire to be the opposite of those things, and think we all should. The quitter I want to be is someone who gets out when there's no value to be added, or when that value comes at the expense of something more important.
I want to quit doing things that I'm asked to do, for no other reason than I'm asked to do it. I want to be able to quit something in mid-stream, because I realize there's nothing good coming from it.
A friend of mine once told me that "I knew I was an adult when I could stop reading a book, even after getting 500 pages into it." Odd though it sounds, we all tend to do this. We get involved in something, realize we don't want to be a part of it, but keep trucking through. We say "well, I've already invested so much time in this, I might as well stick it out."
I propose the opposite: quit as often as possible, regardless of project status or time invested. If you're reading a book, and don't like it, stop reading. Cut your losses, realize that the smartest thing to do is stop before your losses grow even more, and quit. If you're working on a project at work that isn't going anywhere, but you've already invested tons of time on it, quit. Take the time gained by quitting the pointless project, and put it toward something of value. Instead of reading an entire book you hate, read 1/2 a bad one and 1/2 a good one. Isn't that a better use of your time?
If you're stuck doing something, and don't really want to do it anymore, step back for a second. Ask if you really have to do this, and what value is being produced from your doing it. Don't think about the time you've put into it, or how much it's taken over your life. If you don't want to do it, and don't have to do it, don't do it.
By quitting these things, you'll free up time to do things that actually do create value, for yourself and for others. You'll have time to read all the great books out there, or at least a couple more. You'll be able to begin to put your time and effort into the things you'd actually like to do.
Let's try it together: what are the things you're doing, that you're only doing because you've been doing them for so long? Quit. Don't let time spent dictate time you will spend. Let's learn how to say "no" at the beginning, or in the middle, and free up more of our time to do the things we'd like to be doing, and the things actually worth doing.
Saying no is hard, and admitting a mistaken yes is even harder. But if we do both, we'll start to make sure that we're spending our time creating value, rather than aggravating our losses. Let's be quitters together.
What do you think? What in your life can you quit?
我是一個(gè)很糟糕的人說(shuō)不。我承擔(dān)太多的項(xiàng)目,花太多的時(shí)間我寧愿不做事。我做的東西,但它并不總是的我能做的,或者我可以花時(shí)間的方式。
這就是為什么我的最新目標(biāo),作為一個(gè)專業(yè)的和一個(gè)人,是一個(gè)輕易放棄的人。
放棄不放棄的人,誰(shuí)沒(méi)有看到重要的事情進(jìn)行到底。我渴望成為這些東西的反面,并認(rèn)為我們都應(yīng)該。輕易放棄我想要的人就沒(méi)有價(jià)值時(shí),或當(dāng)該值為代價(jià)的東西更重要。
我想放棄做我要做的事情,沒(méi)有別的原因,我要求這樣做。我希望能夠在中途放棄的東西,因?yàn)槲抑罌](méi)有什么好。
我的一個(gè)朋友曾經(jīng)告訴我,“我知道我是一個(gè)成年人,我可以不去讀一本書,即使獲得500頁(yè)。“這聽(tīng)起來(lái)有些奇怪,但是,我們都傾向于這樣做。我們參與,實(shí)現(xiàn)我們不想成為它的一部分,但是讓卡車通過(guò)。我們說(shuō)“好吧,我已經(jīng)投入了很多時(shí)間在這方面,我也會(huì)堅(jiān)持到底?！?BR> 我建議相反:盡可能經(jīng)常辭職,不管項(xiàng)目狀態(tài)和時(shí)間投資。如果你讀一本書,和不喜歡它,停止閱讀。減少你的損失,意識(shí)到之前做的最聰明的事情就是停止你的損失增長(zhǎng)更多,和戒煙。如果你工作在一個(gè)項(xiàng)目工作,不會(huì)在任何地方,但你已經(jīng)投入了大量的時(shí)間,放棄?；〞r(shí)間通過(guò)放棄毫無(wú)意義的項(xiàng)目,并把它向有價(jià)值的東西。整本書你討厭讀書,讀1/2半一個(gè)好一個(gè)不好。這不是一個(gè)更好的利用你的時(shí)間?
如果你堅(jiān)持做,不想做下去,退后一步。問(wèn)如果你真的要這樣做,是什么值產(chǎn)生從你這樣做。不考慮你投入的時(shí)間,或者多少接管你的生活。如果你不想做,沒(méi)有去做,不要這樣做。
通過(guò)放棄這些東西,你會(huì)騰出時(shí)間做事情做創(chuàng)造價(jià)值,為自己和他人。你將有時(shí)間閱讀所有的書籍,或至少兩個(gè)。你就可以開(kāi)始把你的時(shí)間和精力投入到你真正喜歡做的事。
讓我們一起試一試:你正在做的事情,你只有做因?yàn)槟阋恢痹谧鏊麄冞@么長(zhǎng)時(shí)間?辭職。不要讓時(shí)間決定你將花時(shí)間。讓我們學(xué)會(huì)說(shuō)“不”的開(kāi)始,或者在中間,并釋放出更多的時(shí)間去做我們想做的事情,和真正值得做的事情。
說(shuō)“不”是很困難的,承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤是的就更難了。但如果我們做,我們會(huì)確保我們花時(shí)間創(chuàng)造價(jià)值,而不是加重我們的損失。讓我們一起戒煙。
你怎么認(rèn)為?什么在你的生活中你能辭職嗎?