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Are you a good conversationalist? What makes someone a good conversationalist? Being a good conversationalist is important in every context, be it in business, social, or dating. 你是不是一名好的健談者?什么能讓你變得健談呢?無論在何種情況下，作為一名好的健談者都是非常重要的，無論是商業(yè)、還是社交或是約會。 I don’t think there are any “tricks” or shady techniques you have to apply to be a great conversationalist. Below are ten timeless rules I apply to all my conversations: 我認為要想成為好的健談者，不需要任何的“招數(shù)”或不正當?shù)氖址?。下面是我用到談話中永不過時的10條原則： 1. Be genuinely interested in the person. 對談話的人真正感興趣 Who is this person? What’s on his/her mind? What does he/she enjoy doing? What motivates him/her in life? These are the questions I have for every single person I meet. Since people form the core of my life purpose (to help others grow), my genuine interest in people, from who they are to what they do, comes naturally. 這個人是誰?他/她在想什么?他/她喜歡做什么?什么激勵著他/她的生活?我每遇見一個人，我都會想這樣的問題。由于人們形成了我生活目標的核心(幫助他人成長)， 我對他人的興趣，從他們是誰到他們做什么，就很自然地產(chǎn)生了。 Such genuine interest, not an artificial one, is essential to making a conversation fly. If you are not interested in the other person, then why speak to him/her to begin with? Move on to someone you really want to talk to. Life is too short to be spent doing things you don’t like. 這樣的興趣是發(fā)自內(nèi)心的，而不是虛假的， 這是讓談話出彩的必要條件。如果你對他人不敢興趣，為什么要和他/她說話呢?去和你真正想談話的人說話。生活苦短，不要把它浪費在你不喜歡的事情上。 2. Focus on the positives. 關注正能量 Which means rather than talk about past grievances, opt for a discussion of future goals.Rather than talk about the coffee that spilled on your table this morning, talk about that movie you are looking forward to watch later in the evening. It’s okay to talk about “negative” topics(read: topics that trigger negative emotions) once in a while, but only when you feel it is okay with the other party and when it has a specific purpose (e.g., to get to know the other person better or to bond with the person). 也就是說與其談論過去的悲傷，不如去討論未來的目標。與其談論今天早晨灑在你桌子上的咖啡，不如談論一下晚上你想看的電影。偶爾談論一下“負面”話題(能產(chǎn)生負面情緒的話題)也是可以的， 但是當你覺得對方也能接受并且有特定目的時(比如，更好地了解對方或和對方建立聯(lián)系)。 3. Converse, not debate (or argue). 交談而不是辯論(爭吵) A conversation should be a platform where opinions are aired, not a battle ground to pit one’s stance against another. Be ready to chat, discuss, and trash out ideas, but do so amiably. There’s no need to have a conclusion or agreement point in every discussion; if a convergence has to be met with everything that is mooted, the conversation would be very draining. Allow for things to be left open-ended if a common point can’t be achieved. 談話應該是交流觀點的平臺，而不是一對一的硝煙戰(zhàn)場。準備交談、談論和清理想法，態(tài)度要和藹。沒有必要每次討論都要下結論或達成一致。如果每次都談有爭議的內(nèi)容，那么談話會非常吃力。如果無法達到共識，可以讓事物處于開放狀態(tài)。
Are you a good conversationalist? What makes someone a good conversationalist? Being a good conversationalist is important in every context, be it in business, social, or dating. 你是不是一名好的健談者?什么能讓你變得健談呢?無論在何種情況下，作為一名好的健談者都是非常重要的，無論是商業(yè)、還是社交或是約會。 I don’t think there are any “tricks” or shady techniques you have to apply to be a great conversationalist. Below are ten timeless rules I apply to all my conversations: 我認為要想成為好的健談者，不需要任何的“招數(shù)”或不正當?shù)氖址?。下面是我用到談話中永不過時的10條原則： 1. Be genuinely interested in the person. 對談話的人真正感興趣 Who is this person? What’s on his/her mind? What does he/she enjoy doing? What motivates him/her in life? These are the questions I have for every single person I meet. Since people form the core of my life purpose (to help others grow), my genuine interest in people, from who they are to what they do, comes naturally. 這個人是誰?他/她在想什么?他/她喜歡做什么?什么激勵著他/她的生活?我每遇見一個人，我都會想這樣的問題。由于人們形成了我生活目標的核心(幫助他人成長)， 我對他人的興趣，從他們是誰到他們做什么，就很自然地產(chǎn)生了。 Such genuine interest, not an artificial one, is essential to making a conversation fly. If you are not interested in the other person, then why speak to him/her to begin with? Move on to someone you really want to talk to. Life is too short to be spent doing things you don’t like. 這樣的興趣是發(fā)自內(nèi)心的，而不是虛假的， 這是讓談話出彩的必要條件。如果你對他人不敢興趣，為什么要和他/她說話呢?去和你真正想談話的人說話。生活苦短，不要把它浪費在你不喜歡的事情上。 2. Focus on the positives. 關注正能量 Which means rather than talk about past grievances, opt for a discussion of future goals.Rather than talk about the coffee that spilled on your table this morning, talk about that movie you are looking forward to watch later in the evening. It’s okay to talk about “negative” topics(read: topics that trigger negative emotions) once in a while, but only when you feel it is okay with the other party and when it has a specific purpose (e.g., to get to know the other person better or to bond with the person). 也就是說與其談論過去的悲傷，不如去討論未來的目標。與其談論今天早晨灑在你桌子上的咖啡，不如談論一下晚上你想看的電影。偶爾談論一下“負面”話題(能產(chǎn)生負面情緒的話題)也是可以的， 但是當你覺得對方也能接受并且有特定目的時(比如，更好地了解對方或和對方建立聯(lián)系)。 3. Converse, not debate (or argue). 交談而不是辯論(爭吵) A conversation should be a platform where opinions are aired, not a battle ground to pit one’s stance against another. Be ready to chat, discuss, and trash out ideas, but do so amiably. There’s no need to have a conclusion or agreement point in every discussion; if a convergence has to be met with everything that is mooted, the conversation would be very draining. Allow for things to be left open-ended if a common point can’t be achieved. 談話應該是交流觀點的平臺，而不是一對一的硝煙戰(zhàn)場。準備交談、談論和清理想法，態(tài)度要和藹。沒有必要每次討論都要下結論或達成一致。如果每次都談有爭議的內(nèi)容，那么談話會非常吃力。如果無法達到共識，可以讓事物處于開放狀態(tài)。