As a rule, thinking is a good thing and while some people don’t do it enough, some over-think everything. Both genders can fall into either category - today we’re going to chat about the one who does too much.
Some people think themselves into stagnation, frustration, exhaustion, anxiety and even illness. They have an aptitude for making the simple, complex, the easy, hard, the minor issue, a major drama and the pain-less, pain-full. They are adept at snatching defeat from the jaws of victory and also at wasting their time and talent through age-old art of over-analysing everything and everyone; analysis paralysis. They are experts at misinterpreting what people are saying and if there is a way to have their feelings hurt, they’ll find it. Even go looking for it. Not only do they have a history of almost doing things but more often than not they are obsessive, compulsive with perfectionistic tendencies. They worry too much. About nearly everything. They are people-pleasers who want change (different) but the change process scares them. They don’t need other people to sabotage their dreams or goals, they can do that all by themselves. They are highly skilled in the art of self-sabotage and if anyone will get in their way, it’s them. They are… the Over-Thinker.
So, if you identify with any of the above, then you probably inhabit the cerebral landscape somewhere between casual Over-Thinker and chronic Over-Thinker. Here’s a few tips to help you deal with your Over-Thinking-Ness (a word). (Now).
1. Stop waiting for perfection (perfect timing, perfect conditions) before you do what you know you should have done long ago. Being ambitious is great but aiming for perfection is unrealistic, impractical and debilitating. Aim for constant improvement and consciously and methodically work towards positive change where you need it most.
2. Don’t assume. Don’t act on hunches, act on facts.
3. Be more proactive; do stuff! Get out of the theory and into the practical. Now! Do at least one thing each day every day that will get you closer to where you want to be. Even if it scares you. Especially if it scares you. To steal someone else’s book title, “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.” Don’t let fear hijack your potential or run your life (into the ground).
4. Ask yourself the right type of questions; the ones which will put you (mentally) in a positive, practical, productive and solution-focused head space. Acknowledge the problem but be all about the solution. Consciously find the good.
5. Have a sounding board (coach, friend, mentor, relative); someone who will provide you with relevant, meaningful, specific, unemotional feedback - you can’t be objective about you. Make sure it’s someone who will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
6. In order to consistently and consciously move from mediocre to amazing, create a plan and totally commit to it. Don’t give yourself an escape clause. Identify and commit to your non-negotiable behaviours.
7. Stop rationalising, justifying and explaining what you’re not doing. Try honesty, it’s quite effective. And liberating.
8. Keep a Success Diary (wanky name but great concept). Journaling your thoughts, decisions, behaviours and results is a great way to keep perspective, stay focused and motivated and to de-emotionalise the change process. It’s also a good way for you to learn what works - for you.
9. Get out of your thoughts. Eckhart Tolle talks about finding that very quiet, relaxing and beautiful space beyond our thoughts. The place where peace, calm, joy and freedom live. This is something which needs to be worked on but with practice you’ll be able to do it almost anywhere at any time. We don’t know how hard it is to stop thinking until we try. And the irony is that moving beyond our thoughts is not really about trying but about letting go. Of the chaos. The mind can be an exhausting place and sometimes we need a holiday from it. If you struggle with this concept, start by losing yourself in some of your favourite music. Step out of your mind and into the music; away from the cerebral and into the creative. The spiritual. The non-thinker. If you’re interested in exploring and understanding this concept more, check out Eckhart Tolle’s book the Power of Now. It’s kind of heavy going (possibly weird depending on where you’re at) but well worth it if you can persevere and digest his words thoughtfully.
10. With all the thoughts traveling around in your head, some of them should be evicted, others are stuck and are too scared to come out. See your brain’s thoughts as one massive Apartment Block. Let’s look at Level 2 of your Apartment Block … as you walk down the corridor, you hear the ol’ crazy woman behind Apt 22 “you should have done it this way stuuupid…”. Further down is the chatterbox in Apt 28 who always has her door open and jumps out and distracts you, just as you’re trying to get somewhere. At the end of the corridor is Mr Gotnothingbettertodo who without fail stops you dead in your tracks “if you only saw how silly you looked you’ve never do that again!”. These trouble-making tenants are in fact those thoughts that interupt your driving forces and freeze you with guilt, anxiety and reasons to keep us still. These tenants are really easy to spot, haven’t paid rent in years, are up to no good and are causing trouble to all the other (good) tenants. These tenants must be evicted - effective immediately!
Start right now - select the most disturbing tenant you know is doing you no good and hand deliver your notice NOW! Get in that elevator, press the button to the floor that you know you keep avoiding.. and march to their door with confidence and hand deliver that notice. If they don’t co-operate, grab them by the ankles and toss them out. These tenants have been settled for a long time and know how to persuade you - so don’t give in! Remember, you have other fantastic tenants there that will be right by your side to support you in this mass evacuation.
This will make room for new, inspirational tenants. Make this Apartment Block your own - bring it back to life, create activities for your community, put in groovy carpet, bring in leafy plants, put in a bar upstairs with 24/7 feel good music (next to the brain spa and indoor pool) - even renovate a complete level and turn it into a brain haven where your tenants can go to put their feet up and recuperate. It’s your Apartment Block - the possibilities are endless!
如何避免成為一個(gè)過度思考者
通常來說，思考是一件好事，不過有些人思考得不夠，而有些人卻考慮得太多。男女都有可能成為其中任意一種人-今天我們就聊一聊那些想得太多的人。
有些人想得太多，把自己陷入了停滯，沮喪，疲憊，焦慮，甚至是病態(tài)。他們有“天分”可以把簡單想得復(fù)雜，把容易想得困難，把一個(gè)小問題想成一個(gè)大悲劇，把十分輕松變成萬分痛苦。他們擅長在勝利關(guān)口抓取一絲失敗，把自己的時(shí)間和才干都浪費(fèi)在對一切人和事的過度考慮上;直至分析癱瘓。他們是曲解他人意思的專家，如果有一種方法可以傷害到自己的感情，他們就會找到它，甚至自己主動(dòng)去找它。他們有馬馬虎虎做事的歷史，但更為常見的是他們的強(qiáng)迫癥和完美主義傾向。他們擔(dān)心得太多，對于任何一切東西。他們是取悅他人者，他們想要改變，但改變的過程嚇退了他們。他們不需要其他人來破壞自己的夢想或目標(biāo)，他們自己會做。他們是自我破壞藝術(shù)中高度熟練的專家，如果有任何人會來擋道，肯定是他們自己。他們是——過度思考者。
因此，如果您發(fā)現(xiàn)上面涉及的任何情況，那么您可能正處在暫時(shí)性過度思想者和慢性過思想者之間。以下是一些建議，可以幫助您處理您的過度思考性：
1 。不要再等待完美（完美的時(shí)機(jī)，完善的條件），有些事你知道其實(shí)很早之前就該做的。擁有雄心勃勃的目標(biāo)是偉大的，但追求完美是不現(xiàn)實(shí)的，不切實(shí)際的，也容易讓人變得虛弱。朝著不斷改善的目標(biāo)，自覺地有條不紊地向著您最需要的積極方向努力吧。
2 。不要假設(shè)。不要在預(yù)感的基礎(chǔ)上采取行動(dòng)，在事實(shí)基礎(chǔ)上行動(dòng)吧。
3 。更加積極主動(dòng)：趕緊露一手吧！從理論中走出來，來到實(shí)踐當(dāng)中去。就是現(xiàn)在！至少每一天做一件事，這樣您能更加接近你的夢想，特別是當(dāng)夢想嚇到了你的時(shí)候更應(yīng)該如此。在此盜用一下別人的書名，《感受恐懼，無論如何采取行動(dòng)吧》，不要讓恐懼埋沒了你的潛力，甚至把你生活弄得一團(tuán)糟。
4 。問自己一些正確的問題類型：問一些問題，可以使你精神上處于更加積極、務(wù)實(shí)、富有成果和著重解決問題的思考空間。承認(rèn)問題的存在，然后思考各種解決方案。不由自主地你會得到好處。
5 。有一個(gè)健康的關(guān)系網(wǎng)（教練，朋友，導(dǎo)師和親戚）：一些可以為你提供相關(guān)的，有意義的，具體的，非情緒化的反饋的人-你不可能完全客觀地了解你自己。確保這些人會告訴你所需要聽到的，而不是你想要聽到的。
6 。為了能夠堅(jiān)持和自覺地從平庸轉(zhuǎn)化為驚人，創(chuàng)建一個(gè)計(jì)劃吧，然后按照它完全落實(shí)下去。不要給自己留一個(gè)借口。明確自己該有的行為，并不折不扣地兌現(xiàn)出來。
7 。不要為自己不做事情找任何借口。試著誠實(shí)，這會相當(dāng)?shù)赜行Ш徒夥抛约骸?BR> 8 。保持寫成功日記的好習(xí)慣。（名字不咋樣，但是構(gòu)想偉大）記錄下你的想法、決定、行動(dòng)和結(jié)果，是一種非常有效的方式，可以幫助你很好地把握全局，集中注意力，保持動(dòng)力和在改變主意時(shí)減少情緒化。這也是一種幫助你認(rèn)識什么對你有好處的好方法。
9 。走出你的想法。克哈特托爾談?wù)撝l(fā)現(xiàn)我們思想之外的空間是如何的安靜，輕松和美妙。那里充滿了和平，寧靜，快樂和自由。這似乎需要努力才能達(dá)到，但實(shí)際上任何時(shí)候任何地方我們都可以做到。我們不知道要停止思考有多么的難，只有我們試了才知道。不過諷刺的是，要超脫我們的思考，并不需要努力嘗試，只要放任自由即可。混沌之中，有時(shí)候思考讓我們精疲力竭，有時(shí)候我們需要給它放個(gè)大假。如果你不清楚這個(gè)概念，就先把自己沉浸在你喜愛的音樂當(dāng)中去吧。走出想法，進(jìn)入音樂;遠(yuǎn)離思考，走入創(chuàng)造。跟著你的心走，而不是你的思想。如果您有興趣更多地探索和理解這一概念，請查看克哈特托爾的書《現(xiàn)在的力量》。這任務(wù)不輕（可能取決于你的層次），但很值得一看，如果你能深刻地把握和消化他的話。
10 。所有的想法在你的腦中四處游蕩，其中有些應(yīng)該被淘棄，另外一些則根深蒂固，或者不敢冒出來。把你腦中的想法看做一座大型的公寓樓。讓我們來看看你的公寓樓的第2層……當(dāng)你走在走廊上時(shí)，你會聽到公寓22的醉酒瘋女人在喊“你應(yīng)該這么做的，蠢蠢蠢貨……”再往下走，你會遇見公寓28的長舌婦，總是開著門，你想走到某個(gè)地方去，而她總是跳出來，打斷你的去路。走廊盡頭，是無所事事先生，他總能成功地把你死死陷在你的路途中“你可知道你再也沒那么做了是多么的愚蠢?！边@些麻煩的租戶其實(shí)就是影響你做事的動(dòng)力的各種想法，也是利用內(nèi)疚、焦慮以及各種逃避的理由來禁錮我們行動(dòng)的想法。這些租戶實(shí)際上很容易被發(fā)現(xiàn)，已經(jīng)幾年未支付租金，沒有一點(diǎn)好處，并給所有其他（好）租戶帶來麻煩。這些住戶必須被驅(qū)逐出去-立即執(zhí)行！
從現(xiàn)在開始-選擇你所知道的最令人不安的壞租客，馬上發(fā)出逐客通知！進(jìn)入電梯，按下你一直在逃避的那一層樓的按鈕，自信地走向那個(gè)門，遞出你的通知。如果他們不配合，就抓住他們的腳踝，把他們?nèi)映鋈?。這些住戶已經(jīng)居住了很長一段時(shí)間，知道該如何說服你-所以不要屈服！請記住，您還有其他精彩的租戶，會站在你的身邊支持你進(jìn)行大規(guī)模遣散活動(dòng)。
這給你騰出了空間來迎接新的鼓舞人心的租戶，把公寓樓變成了你自己的——把它帶回了鮮活，為社區(qū)舉辦活動(dòng)，帶來精美的地毯和綠葉植物，樓上設(shè)了酒吧，可以感受美妙的音樂（旁邊是腦水療中心和室內(nèi)游泳池）——甚至可以來個(gè)徹底的改造，把它變成大腦天堂，在這里，你的租戶可以盡情地休息復(fù)原。這是你的公寓！——可能永無止境！
Some people think themselves into stagnation, frustration, exhaustion, anxiety and even illness. They have an aptitude for making the simple, complex, the easy, hard, the minor issue, a major drama and the pain-less, pain-full. They are adept at snatching defeat from the jaws of victory and also at wasting their time and talent through age-old art of over-analysing everything and everyone; analysis paralysis. They are experts at misinterpreting what people are saying and if there is a way to have their feelings hurt, they’ll find it. Even go looking for it. Not only do they have a history of almost doing things but more often than not they are obsessive, compulsive with perfectionistic tendencies. They worry too much. About nearly everything. They are people-pleasers who want change (different) but the change process scares them. They don’t need other people to sabotage their dreams or goals, they can do that all by themselves. They are highly skilled in the art of self-sabotage and if anyone will get in their way, it’s them. They are… the Over-Thinker.
So, if you identify with any of the above, then you probably inhabit the cerebral landscape somewhere between casual Over-Thinker and chronic Over-Thinker. Here’s a few tips to help you deal with your Over-Thinking-Ness (a word). (Now).
1. Stop waiting for perfection (perfect timing, perfect conditions) before you do what you know you should have done long ago. Being ambitious is great but aiming for perfection is unrealistic, impractical and debilitating. Aim for constant improvement and consciously and methodically work towards positive change where you need it most.
2. Don’t assume. Don’t act on hunches, act on facts.
3. Be more proactive; do stuff! Get out of the theory and into the practical. Now! Do at least one thing each day every day that will get you closer to where you want to be. Even if it scares you. Especially if it scares you. To steal someone else’s book title, “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.” Don’t let fear hijack your potential or run your life (into the ground).
4. Ask yourself the right type of questions; the ones which will put you (mentally) in a positive, practical, productive and solution-focused head space. Acknowledge the problem but be all about the solution. Consciously find the good.
5. Have a sounding board (coach, friend, mentor, relative); someone who will provide you with relevant, meaningful, specific, unemotional feedback - you can’t be objective about you. Make sure it’s someone who will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
6. In order to consistently and consciously move from mediocre to amazing, create a plan and totally commit to it. Don’t give yourself an escape clause. Identify and commit to your non-negotiable behaviours.
7. Stop rationalising, justifying and explaining what you’re not doing. Try honesty, it’s quite effective. And liberating.
8. Keep a Success Diary (wanky name but great concept). Journaling your thoughts, decisions, behaviours and results is a great way to keep perspective, stay focused and motivated and to de-emotionalise the change process. It’s also a good way for you to learn what works - for you.
9. Get out of your thoughts. Eckhart Tolle talks about finding that very quiet, relaxing and beautiful space beyond our thoughts. The place where peace, calm, joy and freedom live. This is something which needs to be worked on but with practice you’ll be able to do it almost anywhere at any time. We don’t know how hard it is to stop thinking until we try. And the irony is that moving beyond our thoughts is not really about trying but about letting go. Of the chaos. The mind can be an exhausting place and sometimes we need a holiday from it. If you struggle with this concept, start by losing yourself in some of your favourite music. Step out of your mind and into the music; away from the cerebral and into the creative. The spiritual. The non-thinker. If you’re interested in exploring and understanding this concept more, check out Eckhart Tolle’s book the Power of Now. It’s kind of heavy going (possibly weird depending on where you’re at) but well worth it if you can persevere and digest his words thoughtfully.
10. With all the thoughts traveling around in your head, some of them should be evicted, others are stuck and are too scared to come out. See your brain’s thoughts as one massive Apartment Block. Let’s look at Level 2 of your Apartment Block … as you walk down the corridor, you hear the ol’ crazy woman behind Apt 22 “you should have done it this way stuuupid…”. Further down is the chatterbox in Apt 28 who always has her door open and jumps out and distracts you, just as you’re trying to get somewhere. At the end of the corridor is Mr Gotnothingbettertodo who without fail stops you dead in your tracks “if you only saw how silly you looked you’ve never do that again!”. These trouble-making tenants are in fact those thoughts that interupt your driving forces and freeze you with guilt, anxiety and reasons to keep us still. These tenants are really easy to spot, haven’t paid rent in years, are up to no good and are causing trouble to all the other (good) tenants. These tenants must be evicted - effective immediately!
Start right now - select the most disturbing tenant you know is doing you no good and hand deliver your notice NOW! Get in that elevator, press the button to the floor that you know you keep avoiding.. and march to their door with confidence and hand deliver that notice. If they don’t co-operate, grab them by the ankles and toss them out. These tenants have been settled for a long time and know how to persuade you - so don’t give in! Remember, you have other fantastic tenants there that will be right by your side to support you in this mass evacuation.
This will make room for new, inspirational tenants. Make this Apartment Block your own - bring it back to life, create activities for your community, put in groovy carpet, bring in leafy plants, put in a bar upstairs with 24/7 feel good music (next to the brain spa and indoor pool) - even renovate a complete level and turn it into a brain haven where your tenants can go to put their feet up and recuperate. It’s your Apartment Block - the possibilities are endless!
如何避免成為一個(gè)過度思考者
通常來說，思考是一件好事，不過有些人思考得不夠，而有些人卻考慮得太多。男女都有可能成為其中任意一種人-今天我們就聊一聊那些想得太多的人。
有些人想得太多，把自己陷入了停滯，沮喪，疲憊，焦慮，甚至是病態(tài)。他們有“天分”可以把簡單想得復(fù)雜，把容易想得困難，把一個(gè)小問題想成一個(gè)大悲劇，把十分輕松變成萬分痛苦。他們擅長在勝利關(guān)口抓取一絲失敗，把自己的時(shí)間和才干都浪費(fèi)在對一切人和事的過度考慮上;直至分析癱瘓。他們是曲解他人意思的專家，如果有一種方法可以傷害到自己的感情，他們就會找到它，甚至自己主動(dòng)去找它。他們有馬馬虎虎做事的歷史，但更為常見的是他們的強(qiáng)迫癥和完美主義傾向。他們擔(dān)心得太多，對于任何一切東西。他們是取悅他人者，他們想要改變，但改變的過程嚇退了他們。他們不需要其他人來破壞自己的夢想或目標(biāo)，他們自己會做。他們是自我破壞藝術(shù)中高度熟練的專家，如果有任何人會來擋道，肯定是他們自己。他們是——過度思考者。
因此，如果您發(fā)現(xiàn)上面涉及的任何情況，那么您可能正處在暫時(shí)性過度思想者和慢性過思想者之間。以下是一些建議，可以幫助您處理您的過度思考性：
1 。不要再等待完美（完美的時(shí)機(jī)，完善的條件），有些事你知道其實(shí)很早之前就該做的。擁有雄心勃勃的目標(biāo)是偉大的，但追求完美是不現(xiàn)實(shí)的，不切實(shí)際的，也容易讓人變得虛弱。朝著不斷改善的目標(biāo)，自覺地有條不紊地向著您最需要的積極方向努力吧。
2 。不要假設(shè)。不要在預(yù)感的基礎(chǔ)上采取行動(dòng)，在事實(shí)基礎(chǔ)上行動(dòng)吧。
3 。更加積極主動(dòng)：趕緊露一手吧！從理論中走出來，來到實(shí)踐當(dāng)中去。就是現(xiàn)在！至少每一天做一件事，這樣您能更加接近你的夢想，特別是當(dāng)夢想嚇到了你的時(shí)候更應(yīng)該如此。在此盜用一下別人的書名，《感受恐懼，無論如何采取行動(dòng)吧》，不要讓恐懼埋沒了你的潛力，甚至把你生活弄得一團(tuán)糟。
4 。問自己一些正確的問題類型：問一些問題，可以使你精神上處于更加積極、務(wù)實(shí)、富有成果和著重解決問題的思考空間。承認(rèn)問題的存在，然后思考各種解決方案。不由自主地你會得到好處。
5 。有一個(gè)健康的關(guān)系網(wǎng)（教練，朋友，導(dǎo)師和親戚）：一些可以為你提供相關(guān)的，有意義的，具體的，非情緒化的反饋的人-你不可能完全客觀地了解你自己。確保這些人會告訴你所需要聽到的，而不是你想要聽到的。
6 。為了能夠堅(jiān)持和自覺地從平庸轉(zhuǎn)化為驚人，創(chuàng)建一個(gè)計(jì)劃吧，然后按照它完全落實(shí)下去。不要給自己留一個(gè)借口。明確自己該有的行為，并不折不扣地兌現(xiàn)出來。
7 。不要為自己不做事情找任何借口。試著誠實(shí)，這會相當(dāng)?shù)赜行Ш徒夥抛约骸?BR> 8 。保持寫成功日記的好習(xí)慣。（名字不咋樣，但是構(gòu)想偉大）記錄下你的想法、決定、行動(dòng)和結(jié)果，是一種非常有效的方式，可以幫助你很好地把握全局，集中注意力，保持動(dòng)力和在改變主意時(shí)減少情緒化。這也是一種幫助你認(rèn)識什么對你有好處的好方法。
9 。走出你的想法。克哈特托爾談?wù)撝l(fā)現(xiàn)我們思想之外的空間是如何的安靜，輕松和美妙。那里充滿了和平，寧靜，快樂和自由。這似乎需要努力才能達(dá)到，但實(shí)際上任何時(shí)候任何地方我們都可以做到。我們不知道要停止思考有多么的難，只有我們試了才知道。不過諷刺的是，要超脫我們的思考，并不需要努力嘗試，只要放任自由即可。混沌之中，有時(shí)候思考讓我們精疲力竭，有時(shí)候我們需要給它放個(gè)大假。如果你不清楚這個(gè)概念，就先把自己沉浸在你喜愛的音樂當(dāng)中去吧。走出想法，進(jìn)入音樂;遠(yuǎn)離思考，走入創(chuàng)造。跟著你的心走，而不是你的思想。如果您有興趣更多地探索和理解這一概念，請查看克哈特托爾的書《現(xiàn)在的力量》。這任務(wù)不輕（可能取決于你的層次），但很值得一看，如果你能深刻地把握和消化他的話。
10 。所有的想法在你的腦中四處游蕩，其中有些應(yīng)該被淘棄，另外一些則根深蒂固，或者不敢冒出來。把你腦中的想法看做一座大型的公寓樓。讓我們來看看你的公寓樓的第2層……當(dāng)你走在走廊上時(shí)，你會聽到公寓22的醉酒瘋女人在喊“你應(yīng)該這么做的，蠢蠢蠢貨……”再往下走，你會遇見公寓28的長舌婦，總是開著門，你想走到某個(gè)地方去，而她總是跳出來，打斷你的去路。走廊盡頭，是無所事事先生，他總能成功地把你死死陷在你的路途中“你可知道你再也沒那么做了是多么的愚蠢?！边@些麻煩的租戶其實(shí)就是影響你做事的動(dòng)力的各種想法，也是利用內(nèi)疚、焦慮以及各種逃避的理由來禁錮我們行動(dòng)的想法。這些租戶實(shí)際上很容易被發(fā)現(xiàn)，已經(jīng)幾年未支付租金，沒有一點(diǎn)好處，并給所有其他（好）租戶帶來麻煩。這些住戶必須被驅(qū)逐出去-立即執(zhí)行！
從現(xiàn)在開始-選擇你所知道的最令人不安的壞租客，馬上發(fā)出逐客通知！進(jìn)入電梯，按下你一直在逃避的那一層樓的按鈕，自信地走向那個(gè)門，遞出你的通知。如果他們不配合，就抓住他們的腳踝，把他們?nèi)映鋈?。這些住戶已經(jīng)居住了很長一段時(shí)間，知道該如何說服你-所以不要屈服！請記住，您還有其他精彩的租戶，會站在你的身邊支持你進(jìn)行大規(guī)模遣散活動(dòng)。
這給你騰出了空間來迎接新的鼓舞人心的租戶，把公寓樓變成了你自己的——把它帶回了鮮活，為社區(qū)舉辦活動(dòng)，帶來精美的地毯和綠葉植物，樓上設(shè)了酒吧，可以感受美妙的音樂（旁邊是腦水療中心和室內(nèi)游泳池）——甚至可以來個(gè)徹底的改造，把它變成大腦天堂，在這里，你的租戶可以盡情地休息復(fù)原。這是你的公寓！——可能永無止境！