The relationship between the spouses is not confined to a relationship of a leader and subject. In fact there are two aspects of this relationship; one of leadership and the other of love and attachment.
Attending to both rights are indispensable. Husband should act like a leader whilst the subject should live like one. Don't fall into injustice and cruelty.
The Conjugal Relationship
Every single thing has its boundaries under various circumstances. Don't consider the women to be weak and helpless thereby inflicting injustices upon them. A king who exercises his authority over his subjects is quite acceptable.
However, cruelty and injustice can never be tolerated. Her, a conjugal but their relationship is double-faceted; a relationship of leadership and relationship of love.
Man and Woman Need One Another
Another point of similarity that comes to mind is that just as a person is unable to forbear with a lack of clothing over his body, similarly a man and woman are unable to forbear with the lack of each other's company brought about by marriage.
Not only do they need each to fulfil their carnal desires, but she is in need of her husband for his assistance etc. and he is in need of her service and comfort etc. During illness, nobody can serve the husband like a wife would.
This is the amazing “gift” to husband and wife.
After the death of his first wife, an eighty-year old man decided to marry a second time. He had many daughters-in-law who prevented him from re-marrying on the grounds that they were there to serve him. The old man has adamant: “Nobody will be able to serve me like a wife would”.
The Husband and Wife - Adornment for One Another
Another point of resemblance in the simile “Women are clothes for you and you are clothing unto them,” which comes to mind is that one of the characteristics of clothing is that it conceals. Similarly, women are a source of concealment for men and vice versa. In other words, they are a screen for each other's faults and shortcomings.
Although clothing was not explicitly referred to as adornment in this verse, the outcome of adornment is mentioned. And that is words “which covers your shame”. In other word, we have created such clothing for you which conceal your inelegance.
In short, just as clothing is a source of adornment, the wife is a source of adornment to the husband and vice versa. The husband's adornment lies in his wife in a sense that a man with a wife in a sense that a man with a wife children holds a degree of esteem in society.
The wife's adornment lies in her husband in a sense that people won't normally cherish evil thoughts about her.
Prohibition Possessions
Both of the husband and wife enjoy individual ownership of their respective possessions. It is cruel of the husband to utilize his wife's goods without his satisfaction. By satisfaction we mean that there are very persuasive signs which convince one that the owner is totally satisfied and cordially happy.
The reality of “permission with the happiness of the heart” is that the second person also has the ability to refuse. In other words, at times the person from whom permission to utilize a certain item etc. is being sought, is unable to refuse. Hence, his permission is not really considered as satisfaction and happiness of the heart.
Furtively Combining Husband's Wealth
Some women furtively stash away their husband's money over the years on the pretext that it would be of some assistance if he has to die first. For instance, if he gives her 40 Dollars a month for household expenses, she spends 20 and hoards the remaining 20. If the husband dies before her, she considers herself the exclusive owner of the entire amount and she considers herself the exclusive owner of the entire amount and she does not even inform anyone about it. Remember, it is incorrect to do this. The other heirs are also entitled to that sum.
Limitations Spending from Husband's Wealth
Some women, whilst spending the husband's wealth, feel he will give permission later on. At times the husband remains silent whilst at times he gets furious which eventually leads to heated argument and domestic feuds. Therefore, until and unless the husband does not give explicit permission or she is not convinced of his permission, she should not make any donations (or spend it in any other way)
However, if it is something trivial and the wife is sure that her husband wouldn't mind, it is fined (permissible). This would apply obviously to the beggars and destitute.
All of the above factors are the most amazing gift to husband and wife ever.
送給夫妻的美妙饋贈
夫妻關系并不局限于領導與下屬之間的關系。事實上,夫妻關系包含兩個層面:一個是領導關系,另一個是愛人與依附的關系。
互相尊重對方的權利是至關重要的。丈夫的行為舉止應當具有領導風范,同時,下屬也應當象模象樣。既不要冤枉對方,亦不能冷酷無情。
夫妻關系
凡事在不同情況下皆有界限。不要認為婦女柔弱無助,就可以對之不公。國王施威于臣民是完全可以接受的一種情形。
但是,冷酷不公是絕對無法讓人容忍的。夫妻關系具有兩面性,既包含領導關系,又包含愛人關系。
男人和女人都需要對方
正如一個人無法忍受衣不蔽體那樣,男人和女人也無法忍受在婚姻之中沒有相互陪伴的情形。
他們不僅需要對方滿足自己的生理欲求,而且妻子需要丈夫的呵護與幫助、丈夫則需要一個賢內助。丈夫患病期間,惟有妻子才會對丈夫進行無微不至的照料。
這就是送給夫妻的美妙“饋贈”。
在第一任妻子去世之后,一位八十歲高齡的老人決定續(xù)弦。他的兒媳婦們都勸他不要再婚,理由是她們將會照料他的晚年生活。但是老人堅持認為:“任何人都無法給予我只有妻子才能給予的照料。”
丈夫與妻子 – 對方的裝飾品
“女人是你的衣服,你是她們的衣服?！边@個比喻的類同之處在于,衣服的特性之一就是蔽體遮羞。與此類似的,女人是男人的遮護,反之亦然。換句話說,他們能夠互相遮羞護短。
盡管這個比喻并未確指衣服是一種裝飾品,但是卻提到了它的裝飾作用,也就是“遮羞”。換言之,我們創(chuàng)造了能為你遮羞擋丑的衣服。
簡言之,正如衣服具有裝飾作用那樣,妻子也是丈夫的裝飾品,反之亦然。所謂妻榮夫貴、子以父榮。
夫貴妻榮,則表示人們通常不會對她懷有非份之想。
私人空間
丈夫和妻子都對各自的私密空間享有個人所有權。假如丈夫動用了妻子的物品,而妻子并非是心甘情愿的,那這就稱之為冷酷無情。所謂心甘情愿指的是有充分跡象表明物品所有者是發(fā)自內心愿意的。
真正的“心甘情愿”在于,對方也有拒絕的能力。換句話說,某人在征求同意去使用某件物品的時候,對方有時無法拒絕。因此,他的同意不是真正地發(fā)自內心和心甘情愿的。
私藏丈夫的財產
有些女人會長年私藏丈夫的一些錢財,并借口說如果丈夫先走一步的話,這些錢財就能派上用場。比如,丈夫每月給妻子40美元家用,她花掉了20美元,然后把剩下的20美元私藏起來。如果他的丈夫早于她去世,她認為自己就是整筆財產的擁有者,甚至不會透露給任何人知道。但是這樣做是錯誤的。其他繼承人也有權享用這筆財產。
花費丈夫錢財時的限制
有些女人在花費丈夫的錢財時,認為丈夫在日后會給予許可。有時丈夫會保持沉默,但有時會勃然大怒,造成夫妻口角和家庭不和。因此,除非丈夫給予明確的許可,或者在妻子未得到丈夫確鑿的許可之前,她不應當進行任何捐贈(或者以其他方式花銷)。
但是,如果只是一些微不足道的開銷,并且妻子確定丈夫不會對此介意,那么這樣的開銷是允許的。比如給予乞丐和窮人的施舍等。
以上這些就是送給夫妻最美妙的饋贈。
Attending to both rights are indispensable. Husband should act like a leader whilst the subject should live like one. Don't fall into injustice and cruelty.
The Conjugal Relationship
Every single thing has its boundaries under various circumstances. Don't consider the women to be weak and helpless thereby inflicting injustices upon them. A king who exercises his authority over his subjects is quite acceptable.
However, cruelty and injustice can never be tolerated. Her, a conjugal but their relationship is double-faceted; a relationship of leadership and relationship of love.
Man and Woman Need One Another
Another point of similarity that comes to mind is that just as a person is unable to forbear with a lack of clothing over his body, similarly a man and woman are unable to forbear with the lack of each other's company brought about by marriage.
Not only do they need each to fulfil their carnal desires, but she is in need of her husband for his assistance etc. and he is in need of her service and comfort etc. During illness, nobody can serve the husband like a wife would.
This is the amazing “gift” to husband and wife.
After the death of his first wife, an eighty-year old man decided to marry a second time. He had many daughters-in-law who prevented him from re-marrying on the grounds that they were there to serve him. The old man has adamant: “Nobody will be able to serve me like a wife would”.
The Husband and Wife - Adornment for One Another
Another point of resemblance in the simile “Women are clothes for you and you are clothing unto them,” which comes to mind is that one of the characteristics of clothing is that it conceals. Similarly, women are a source of concealment for men and vice versa. In other words, they are a screen for each other's faults and shortcomings.
Although clothing was not explicitly referred to as adornment in this verse, the outcome of adornment is mentioned. And that is words “which covers your shame”. In other word, we have created such clothing for you which conceal your inelegance.
In short, just as clothing is a source of adornment, the wife is a source of adornment to the husband and vice versa. The husband's adornment lies in his wife in a sense that a man with a wife in a sense that a man with a wife children holds a degree of esteem in society.
The wife's adornment lies in her husband in a sense that people won't normally cherish evil thoughts about her.
Prohibition Possessions
Both of the husband and wife enjoy individual ownership of their respective possessions. It is cruel of the husband to utilize his wife's goods without his satisfaction. By satisfaction we mean that there are very persuasive signs which convince one that the owner is totally satisfied and cordially happy.
The reality of “permission with the happiness of the heart” is that the second person also has the ability to refuse. In other words, at times the person from whom permission to utilize a certain item etc. is being sought, is unable to refuse. Hence, his permission is not really considered as satisfaction and happiness of the heart.
Furtively Combining Husband's Wealth
Some women furtively stash away their husband's money over the years on the pretext that it would be of some assistance if he has to die first. For instance, if he gives her 40 Dollars a month for household expenses, she spends 20 and hoards the remaining 20. If the husband dies before her, she considers herself the exclusive owner of the entire amount and she considers herself the exclusive owner of the entire amount and she does not even inform anyone about it. Remember, it is incorrect to do this. The other heirs are also entitled to that sum.
Limitations Spending from Husband's Wealth
Some women, whilst spending the husband's wealth, feel he will give permission later on. At times the husband remains silent whilst at times he gets furious which eventually leads to heated argument and domestic feuds. Therefore, until and unless the husband does not give explicit permission or she is not convinced of his permission, she should not make any donations (or spend it in any other way)
However, if it is something trivial and the wife is sure that her husband wouldn't mind, it is fined (permissible). This would apply obviously to the beggars and destitute.
All of the above factors are the most amazing gift to husband and wife ever.
送給夫妻的美妙饋贈
夫妻關系并不局限于領導與下屬之間的關系。事實上,夫妻關系包含兩個層面:一個是領導關系,另一個是愛人與依附的關系。
互相尊重對方的權利是至關重要的。丈夫的行為舉止應當具有領導風范,同時,下屬也應當象模象樣。既不要冤枉對方,亦不能冷酷無情。
夫妻關系
凡事在不同情況下皆有界限。不要認為婦女柔弱無助,就可以對之不公。國王施威于臣民是完全可以接受的一種情形。
但是,冷酷不公是絕對無法讓人容忍的。夫妻關系具有兩面性,既包含領導關系,又包含愛人關系。
男人和女人都需要對方
正如一個人無法忍受衣不蔽體那樣,男人和女人也無法忍受在婚姻之中沒有相互陪伴的情形。
他們不僅需要對方滿足自己的生理欲求,而且妻子需要丈夫的呵護與幫助、丈夫則需要一個賢內助。丈夫患病期間,惟有妻子才會對丈夫進行無微不至的照料。
這就是送給夫妻的美妙“饋贈”。
在第一任妻子去世之后,一位八十歲高齡的老人決定續(xù)弦。他的兒媳婦們都勸他不要再婚,理由是她們將會照料他的晚年生活。但是老人堅持認為:“任何人都無法給予我只有妻子才能給予的照料。”
丈夫與妻子 – 對方的裝飾品
“女人是你的衣服,你是她們的衣服?！边@個比喻的類同之處在于,衣服的特性之一就是蔽體遮羞。與此類似的,女人是男人的遮護,反之亦然。換句話說,他們能夠互相遮羞護短。
盡管這個比喻并未確指衣服是一種裝飾品,但是卻提到了它的裝飾作用,也就是“遮羞”。換言之,我們創(chuàng)造了能為你遮羞擋丑的衣服。
簡言之,正如衣服具有裝飾作用那樣,妻子也是丈夫的裝飾品,反之亦然。所謂妻榮夫貴、子以父榮。
夫貴妻榮,則表示人們通常不會對她懷有非份之想。
私人空間
丈夫和妻子都對各自的私密空間享有個人所有權。假如丈夫動用了妻子的物品,而妻子并非是心甘情愿的,那這就稱之為冷酷無情。所謂心甘情愿指的是有充分跡象表明物品所有者是發(fā)自內心愿意的。
真正的“心甘情愿”在于,對方也有拒絕的能力。換句話說,某人在征求同意去使用某件物品的時候,對方有時無法拒絕。因此,他的同意不是真正地發(fā)自內心和心甘情愿的。
私藏丈夫的財產
有些女人會長年私藏丈夫的一些錢財,并借口說如果丈夫先走一步的話,這些錢財就能派上用場。比如,丈夫每月給妻子40美元家用,她花掉了20美元,然后把剩下的20美元私藏起來。如果他的丈夫早于她去世,她認為自己就是整筆財產的擁有者,甚至不會透露給任何人知道。但是這樣做是錯誤的。其他繼承人也有權享用這筆財產。
花費丈夫錢財時的限制
有些女人在花費丈夫的錢財時,認為丈夫在日后會給予許可。有時丈夫會保持沉默,但有時會勃然大怒,造成夫妻口角和家庭不和。因此,除非丈夫給予明確的許可,或者在妻子未得到丈夫確鑿的許可之前,她不應當進行任何捐贈(或者以其他方式花銷)。
但是,如果只是一些微不足道的開銷,并且妻子確定丈夫不會對此介意,那么這樣的開銷是允許的。比如給予乞丐和窮人的施舍等。
以上這些就是送給夫妻最美妙的饋贈。