17. You may also be astonished to find out that they deserve your courtesy.你或許很可能驚奇地發(fā)現(xiàn)，他們確實(shí)值得你以禮相待。
find： to discover unexpectedly or by chance
I have not yet found the key I lost three days ago . 我沒找到三天前掉的鑰匙。
find out： to discover through examination or enquiry
We must find out the truth about the matter. 我們必須找出事情的真相。
18.All skills require constant repetition to become second nature ； good manners are no exception . 一切技能都需要經(jīng)常反復(fù)而后才能成為第二天性，禮貌也是如此。
If you want to acquire a skill， you have to practice it again and again. It is the same with good manners， which you won't acquire unless you practice them constantly.
second nature： something you have done so often that you do it almost without thinking. 第二天性、習(xí)性
It has become a second nature to him to turn off all the lights before leaving the office. 離開辦公室前把所有的燈都關(guān)了已成為他的習(xí)慣了。
be no exception…is included in…不看成是例外，同樣適用
All residents must obey these traffic regulations. High-ranking officials are no exception.所有居民都要遵守這些交通規(guī)則。高級(jí)官員也不例外。
All men between 18 and 35 without exception are expected to serve in the army.所有18到35歲的男人，都要服兵役，沒有例外。
19…。to concentrate on your performance in a specific area for about a week. （ …… ）就是在一個(gè)星期左右的時(shí)間內(nèi)，集中改進(jìn)你在某一方面的具體表現(xiàn)。
You can begin by guarding against one bad type of manner for about a week.
concentrate…on…把……集中在……
Don't be absent-minded. Please concentrate your attention on the experiment.別開小差。把注意力集中在實(shí)驗(yàn)上。
20.Or driving a car， why not watch yourself sternly for aggressive driving… 或是改進(jìn)開車的舉止，你可以嚴(yán)格監(jiān)視自己是否開起車來很霸道 ……
Why not…？用來提建議
It's a fine day. Why not go to the Fragrant Hill？ 天氣很好。我們干嗎不去香山？ But why not write to Bob for help？干嗎不給鮑勃寫信請(qǐng)他幫幫忙？
watch ******************./oneself/sth. for ： to pay attention to sth. so that you notice it either
because you don't want to miss it or because you want to avoid it 留心……以尋找……， 注意……以找出 They grew quiet and watched to see what would happen next.他們安靜下來，注意將發(fā)生事么事。
The company's sales department is watching the market for the opportunity to launch new products. 公司的銷售部門正關(guān)注市場(chǎng)情況，看有否機(jī)會(huì)推出他們的新產(chǎn)品。
21 . …… to refuse to let other people's bad manners goad you into retaliating in kind. （有一件不容易做到的而又很重要的事情，）就是對(duì)別人無禮貌的舉止不要以牙還牙。
… if other people are impolite， don't treat them in the same way.
goad ******************./sth into （sth./doing sth.） 激起、激怒……做……
His ambition goaded him on.他的雄心激勵(lì)他前進(jìn)。
Young people are easily goaded into action， wise or foolish.年輕人容易受激采取行動(dòng)，而不顧是否明智。
in kind 用類似的方法
She will be repaid in kind for her impoliteness.她對(duì)人不禮貌，人家也會(huì)對(duì)她不禮貌。
The police were told not to respond in kind even when the demonstrators attacked them. 警察得到命令，即使*者動(dòng)手他們也不得還手。
22. …but he'll be discourteous， stupid and blind——and that’s a combination I don't want to tangle with . （如果我開大燈，）他就不僅僅是不禮貌和愚蠢了，還看不見前方。三樣加在一起，我不愿意招惹。
……h(huán)e will not only remain discourteous and stupid， but also unable to see clearly the road ahead of him. I don't want my bad manners to cause an accident.
tangle with ******************. about…argue， fight with ******************. （inf.） 與………吵架
The wife often tangles with her hu******************and about trifle things.妻子經(jīng)常與她丈夫?yàn)殡u毛蒜皮的事吵架。
23. In the long run ， the kind of person you are is the result of what you've been thinking over the past twenty or thirty years. 從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)的觀點(diǎn)看，你的人品是你以往 20 年或 30 年的思想發(fā)展的結(jié)果。
Your way of thinking determines what kind of person you are. If you are a self-centered person， you will surely be discourteous. On the other hand， if you think of other people's needs and feelings， you will be a considerate and courteous person.
in the long run：從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)來看
In the long run， what they have sacrificed for their children is worthwhile.從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)看，他們?yōu)楹⒆幼龀龅臓奚侵档玫摹?BR> what you've been thinking…the way you’ve been thinking（all your life for a long time）
24. …you train to be considerate of others， if you can acquire the habit of identifying with their problems…如果你培養(yǎng)自己為他人著想，如果你已經(jīng)慣于理解并體諒他人的問題、愿望和憂慮，（你就會(huì)自然而然地以禮待人。）
considerate/be considerate of ******************. 體諒，為……著想，考慮……的需要愿望和感情
it is considerate of ******************. to do sth.
It is considerate of you to send my mother a pair of new glasses. She is losing her eyesight. 你想的太周到了，給我媽寄了付眼鏡去，她的視力變得不行了。
We like Professor Li very much， for she is a very considerate teacher.我們很喜歡李教授，她很能體諒學(xué)生。
identify with ******************./sth.： feel you understand them or their feelings and ideas 理解、體諒……
He can well identify with the problems of the unemployed； he has been without a job.他完全能夠理解失業(yè)人員的困難，他也失業(yè)了。
25.Nowhere is thinking courteous more important than in marriage. 理性的禮貌在婚姻中比在其他任何方面都更為重要。 Conscious courtesy is more important in marriage than anywhere else.
In marriage relationship， the most important thing is to be courteous to your hu******************and or wife.
26. In the intimacy of the home it is easy to displace disappointment or frustration or anger onto the nearest person， and that person is often a hu******************and or wife. 在家庭這個(gè)親昵的環(huán)境中，（人們）很容易把失意、沮喪或氣憤向最親近的人發(fā)泄，此人往往不是丈夫就是妻子。
When you are disappointed or frustrated or angry， you are likely to take it out on your hu******************and or wife because home is the place where you think you don't have to suppress emotions.
displace sth. onto ******************./sth. ： shift sth. onto ******************./sth. 把……（由）轉(zhuǎn)移到……身上
Why do you displace your anger on me？ I have nothing to do with the matter.你為什么把氣出到我頭上？我與這件事毫無關(guān)系。
27. When you feel your anger getting out of control…。 當(dāng)你感到忍不著要發(fā)火， ……
be/get out of control： be/become impossible to manage 失去控制
get/bring sth. under control 使……得以控制，遏制住……
The car went out of control and ran into the tree.車失去了控制，撞到一棵樹上。
The government has to take measures to bring the inflation under control. 政府必須采取措施， 以遏止通貨膨脹。
28.I knew that if they could impose just ten minutes of good manners on themselves， the worst of the storm would blow over ： 我知道要是他們能夠克制自己，堅(jiān)持十分鐘的禮貌，火氣大體上就會(huì)平息。
If they force themselves to behave politely for ten minutes， both the hu******************and and wife would calm down， and no big quarrel would take place.
impose sth. on ******************./sth 把………強(qiáng)加于……。；使……交稅，受罰
You should not impose your view on us. 你不應(yīng)該把你的觀點(diǎn)強(qiáng)加在我們頭上。
Occupation of Iraq does not mean that the U.S. has the right to impose its will on the Iraqi people. 占領(lǐng)伊拉克并不意味美國(guó)有權(quán)把它的意愿強(qiáng)加在伊拉克人民頭上。
blow over： go away without having a serious effect （暴風(fēng)雨等）停止，平息； （問題、不愉快的事情）被淡忘
The scandal blew over quickly. 丑聞很快被淡忘了。
My hu******************and and I have frequent quarrels， but they soon blow over. 我和我的丈經(jīng)常吵架，但是吵架很快就忘了。
29. …… you must be able to accept courtesy， receive it gladly， rejoice when it comes your way . 禮貌還包括能夠接受他人對(duì)你的文明舉止，受到禮遇要高高興興，當(dāng)它不期而至?xí)r要以喜悅表示歡迎。
come one's way： get or experience sth. unexpectedly or by chance （事情）被某人碰上
Actually I didn't look for the job. It came my way. 事實(shí)上，這份工作不是我刻意去找的，而是碰巧得到的。
Such opportunities never come my way. 我從來就沒碰上過這種機(jī)會(huì)。
accept 愿意接受 /receive 收到
I received an invitation last night， but I didn't accept it.
30.…some people are suspicious of gr acious treatment. They suspect the other person of having some ulterior motive. 有些人對(duì)別人的善待懷有疑心，他們懷疑別人有什么不可告人的動(dòng)機(jī)。
be suspicious of/about ******************./sth.對(duì)某人或某物、某事起疑心
She suddenly became kind to us， and we were suspicious of her intention. 她突然對(duì)我們好起來了，我們對(duì)她的意圖有懷疑。
suspect ******************. of sth./doing sth. 懷疑某人做……
He was suspected of taking bribes. 他被懷疑受賄。
31. But some of the most precious gift in life come with no strings attached . 可是生活中的有些最寶貴的贈(zèng)品卻是不帶有任何附加條件的。
But some of the precious things we enjoy in life such as a beautiful day， a sunset， or be pleasant smell of a rose are gifts from nature， offered to every one of us unconditionally.
with no strings attached ： without imposing any condition on the recipient 沒有附帶條件的
China gives aids to developing countries with no strings attached.中國(guó)對(duì)發(fā)展中國(guó)家的援助是不附帶任何條件的。
32. Those are the world's courtesies to us，offered with love and without thought of reward of return，這些都是大自然對(duì)我們的恩惠，以愛心贈(zèng)與我們，毫不考慮是否會(huì)有獎(jiǎng)賞或回報(bào)。
These things are generously given by Nature. She gives them away with love， expecting nothing in return.
33. Good manner are，or should be like that. 禮貌也是如此，或者說應(yīng)該如此。
Good manners should also be offered without thought of reward or return.
34. In the end，it all come down to how you regard people… 最終，禮貌的實(shí)質(zhì)是你如何看待人 ……
Finally，it can be summed up as a simple matter of your attitudes towards people…
come down to sth…。 be a simple matter可歸結(jié)為……。
This matter comes down to what road to take in our modernization drive.這個(gè)問題歸根結(jié)底是我們?cè)谂?shí)現(xiàn)現(xiàn)代化的過程中走那條路的的問題。
The whole matter comes down to a competition for human resources. 整個(gè)問題可以歸結(jié)到是對(duì)人才的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)。
35. The only constant， daily， effective solution is politeness——which is the golden rule in action. 能經(jīng)常、每天使用的有效辦法就是以禮待人這個(gè)行為準(zhǔn)則。
Politeness is the only effective behaviour we can show readily day after day. This is an important principle to follow so that we shall succeed in what we're doing.
golden rule： an important thing to remember to do in order to be successful.金科玉律
find： to discover unexpectedly or by chance
I have not yet found the key I lost three days ago . 我沒找到三天前掉的鑰匙。
find out： to discover through examination or enquiry
We must find out the truth about the matter. 我們必須找出事情的真相。
18.All skills require constant repetition to become second nature ； good manners are no exception . 一切技能都需要經(jīng)常反復(fù)而后才能成為第二天性，禮貌也是如此。
If you want to acquire a skill， you have to practice it again and again. It is the same with good manners， which you won't acquire unless you practice them constantly.
second nature： something you have done so often that you do it almost without thinking. 第二天性、習(xí)性
It has become a second nature to him to turn off all the lights before leaving the office. 離開辦公室前把所有的燈都關(guān)了已成為他的習(xí)慣了。
be no exception…is included in…不看成是例外，同樣適用
All residents must obey these traffic regulations. High-ranking officials are no exception.所有居民都要遵守這些交通規(guī)則。高級(jí)官員也不例外。
All men between 18 and 35 without exception are expected to serve in the army.所有18到35歲的男人，都要服兵役，沒有例外。
19…。to concentrate on your performance in a specific area for about a week. （ …… ）就是在一個(gè)星期左右的時(shí)間內(nèi)，集中改進(jìn)你在某一方面的具體表現(xiàn)。
You can begin by guarding against one bad type of manner for about a week.
concentrate…on…把……集中在……
Don't be absent-minded. Please concentrate your attention on the experiment.別開小差。把注意力集中在實(shí)驗(yàn)上。
20.Or driving a car， why not watch yourself sternly for aggressive driving… 或是改進(jìn)開車的舉止，你可以嚴(yán)格監(jiān)視自己是否開起車來很霸道 ……
Why not…？用來提建議
It's a fine day. Why not go to the Fragrant Hill？ 天氣很好。我們干嗎不去香山？ But why not write to Bob for help？干嗎不給鮑勃寫信請(qǐng)他幫幫忙？
watch ******************./oneself/sth. for ： to pay attention to sth. so that you notice it either
because you don't want to miss it or because you want to avoid it 留心……以尋找……， 注意……以找出 They grew quiet and watched to see what would happen next.他們安靜下來，注意將發(fā)生事么事。
The company's sales department is watching the market for the opportunity to launch new products. 公司的銷售部門正關(guān)注市場(chǎng)情況，看有否機(jī)會(huì)推出他們的新產(chǎn)品。
21 . …… to refuse to let other people's bad manners goad you into retaliating in kind. （有一件不容易做到的而又很重要的事情，）就是對(duì)別人無禮貌的舉止不要以牙還牙。
… if other people are impolite， don't treat them in the same way.
goad ******************./sth into （sth./doing sth.） 激起、激怒……做……
His ambition goaded him on.他的雄心激勵(lì)他前進(jìn)。
Young people are easily goaded into action， wise or foolish.年輕人容易受激采取行動(dòng)，而不顧是否明智。
in kind 用類似的方法
She will be repaid in kind for her impoliteness.她對(duì)人不禮貌，人家也會(huì)對(duì)她不禮貌。
The police were told not to respond in kind even when the demonstrators attacked them. 警察得到命令，即使*者動(dòng)手他們也不得還手。
22. …but he'll be discourteous， stupid and blind——and that’s a combination I don't want to tangle with . （如果我開大燈，）他就不僅僅是不禮貌和愚蠢了，還看不見前方。三樣加在一起，我不愿意招惹。
……h(huán)e will not only remain discourteous and stupid， but also unable to see clearly the road ahead of him. I don't want my bad manners to cause an accident.
tangle with ******************. about…argue， fight with ******************. （inf.） 與………吵架
The wife often tangles with her hu******************and about trifle things.妻子經(jīng)常與她丈夫?yàn)殡u毛蒜皮的事吵架。
23. In the long run ， the kind of person you are is the result of what you've been thinking over the past twenty or thirty years. 從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)的觀點(diǎn)看，你的人品是你以往 20 年或 30 年的思想發(fā)展的結(jié)果。
Your way of thinking determines what kind of person you are. If you are a self-centered person， you will surely be discourteous. On the other hand， if you think of other people's needs and feelings， you will be a considerate and courteous person.
in the long run：從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)來看
In the long run， what they have sacrificed for their children is worthwhile.從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)看，他們?yōu)楹⒆幼龀龅臓奚侵档玫摹?BR> what you've been thinking…the way you’ve been thinking（all your life for a long time）
24. …you train to be considerate of others， if you can acquire the habit of identifying with their problems…如果你培養(yǎng)自己為他人著想，如果你已經(jīng)慣于理解并體諒他人的問題、愿望和憂慮，（你就會(huì)自然而然地以禮待人。）
considerate/be considerate of ******************. 體諒，為……著想，考慮……的需要愿望和感情
it is considerate of ******************. to do sth.
It is considerate of you to send my mother a pair of new glasses. She is losing her eyesight. 你想的太周到了，給我媽寄了付眼鏡去，她的視力變得不行了。
We like Professor Li very much， for she is a very considerate teacher.我們很喜歡李教授，她很能體諒學(xué)生。
identify with ******************./sth.： feel you understand them or their feelings and ideas 理解、體諒……
He can well identify with the problems of the unemployed； he has been without a job.他完全能夠理解失業(yè)人員的困難，他也失業(yè)了。
25.Nowhere is thinking courteous more important than in marriage. 理性的禮貌在婚姻中比在其他任何方面都更為重要。 Conscious courtesy is more important in marriage than anywhere else.
In marriage relationship， the most important thing is to be courteous to your hu******************and or wife.
26. In the intimacy of the home it is easy to displace disappointment or frustration or anger onto the nearest person， and that person is often a hu******************and or wife. 在家庭這個(gè)親昵的環(huán)境中，（人們）很容易把失意、沮喪或氣憤向最親近的人發(fā)泄，此人往往不是丈夫就是妻子。
When you are disappointed or frustrated or angry， you are likely to take it out on your hu******************and or wife because home is the place where you think you don't have to suppress emotions.
displace sth. onto ******************./sth. ： shift sth. onto ******************./sth. 把……（由）轉(zhuǎn)移到……身上
Why do you displace your anger on me？ I have nothing to do with the matter.你為什么把氣出到我頭上？我與這件事毫無關(guān)系。
27. When you feel your anger getting out of control…。 當(dāng)你感到忍不著要發(fā)火， ……
be/get out of control： be/become impossible to manage 失去控制
get/bring sth. under control 使……得以控制，遏制住……
The car went out of control and ran into the tree.車失去了控制，撞到一棵樹上。
The government has to take measures to bring the inflation under control. 政府必須采取措施， 以遏止通貨膨脹。
28.I knew that if they could impose just ten minutes of good manners on themselves， the worst of the storm would blow over ： 我知道要是他們能夠克制自己，堅(jiān)持十分鐘的禮貌，火氣大體上就會(huì)平息。
If they force themselves to behave politely for ten minutes， both the hu******************and and wife would calm down， and no big quarrel would take place.
impose sth. on ******************./sth 把………強(qiáng)加于……。；使……交稅，受罰
You should not impose your view on us. 你不應(yīng)該把你的觀點(diǎn)強(qiáng)加在我們頭上。
Occupation of Iraq does not mean that the U.S. has the right to impose its will on the Iraqi people. 占領(lǐng)伊拉克并不意味美國(guó)有權(quán)把它的意愿強(qiáng)加在伊拉克人民頭上。
blow over： go away without having a serious effect （暴風(fēng)雨等）停止，平息； （問題、不愉快的事情）被淡忘
The scandal blew over quickly. 丑聞很快被淡忘了。
My hu******************and and I have frequent quarrels， but they soon blow over. 我和我的丈經(jīng)常吵架，但是吵架很快就忘了。
29. …… you must be able to accept courtesy， receive it gladly， rejoice when it comes your way . 禮貌還包括能夠接受他人對(duì)你的文明舉止，受到禮遇要高高興興，當(dāng)它不期而至?xí)r要以喜悅表示歡迎。
come one's way： get or experience sth. unexpectedly or by chance （事情）被某人碰上
Actually I didn't look for the job. It came my way. 事實(shí)上，這份工作不是我刻意去找的，而是碰巧得到的。
Such opportunities never come my way. 我從來就沒碰上過這種機(jī)會(huì)。
accept 愿意接受 /receive 收到
I received an invitation last night， but I didn't accept it.
30.…some people are suspicious of gr acious treatment. They suspect the other person of having some ulterior motive. 有些人對(duì)別人的善待懷有疑心，他們懷疑別人有什么不可告人的動(dòng)機(jī)。
be suspicious of/about ******************./sth.對(duì)某人或某物、某事起疑心
She suddenly became kind to us， and we were suspicious of her intention. 她突然對(duì)我們好起來了，我們對(duì)她的意圖有懷疑。
suspect ******************. of sth./doing sth. 懷疑某人做……
He was suspected of taking bribes. 他被懷疑受賄。
31. But some of the most precious gift in life come with no strings attached . 可是生活中的有些最寶貴的贈(zèng)品卻是不帶有任何附加條件的。
But some of the precious things we enjoy in life such as a beautiful day， a sunset， or be pleasant smell of a rose are gifts from nature， offered to every one of us unconditionally.
with no strings attached ： without imposing any condition on the recipient 沒有附帶條件的
China gives aids to developing countries with no strings attached.中國(guó)對(duì)發(fā)展中國(guó)家的援助是不附帶任何條件的。
32. Those are the world's courtesies to us，offered with love and without thought of reward of return，這些都是大自然對(duì)我們的恩惠，以愛心贈(zèng)與我們，毫不考慮是否會(huì)有獎(jiǎng)賞或回報(bào)。
These things are generously given by Nature. She gives them away with love， expecting nothing in return.
33. Good manner are，or should be like that. 禮貌也是如此，或者說應(yīng)該如此。
Good manners should also be offered without thought of reward or return.
34. In the end，it all come down to how you regard people… 最終，禮貌的實(shí)質(zhì)是你如何看待人 ……
Finally，it can be summed up as a simple matter of your attitudes towards people…
come down to sth…。 be a simple matter可歸結(jié)為……。
This matter comes down to what road to take in our modernization drive.這個(gè)問題歸根結(jié)底是我們?cè)谂?shí)現(xiàn)現(xiàn)代化的過程中走那條路的的問題。
The whole matter comes down to a competition for human resources. 整個(gè)問題可以歸結(jié)到是對(duì)人才的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)。
35. The only constant， daily， effective solution is politeness——which is the golden rule in action. 能經(jīng)常、每天使用的有效辦法就是以禮待人這個(gè)行為準(zhǔn)則。
Politeness is the only effective behaviour we can show readily day after day. This is an important principle to follow so that we shall succeed in what we're doing.
golden rule： an important thing to remember to do in order to be successful.金科玉律