The silence of men in general is overtalked about and overcriticized. To be sure, men never open up as much as women want them to, but there is a wordless understanding in which we function fairly well especially in friendships.
I believe, in fact, that most women would prefer a man to be gloomily uncommunicative than to spill his guts at the drop of a hat.
The push for men to express their feelings presumes that we have feelings, and we do have a few, but they remain submerged, and the airing of them often violates their authenticity.
I am no biologist, but my guess is that the male human animal was programmed for silence. I would go so far as to argue that men were programmed to be isolated from one another and that aloneness is our natural state. Silence in male friendships is our way of being alone with each other.
Once men have established a friendship that itself is the word. The affection is obvious, at least to us. A main component of our silence is an appreciation of the affection.
男人的沉默往往被過多地談?wù)撉疫^分指責(zé)了。可以肯定的是，男人從未像女人所希望的那樣開誠(chéng)布公地說出自己的心里話，但無言的理解，在男人當(dāng)中卻很管用，尤其在維持友誼的時(shí)候。
我相信事實(shí)上大多數(shù)女人都寧愿男人郁郁寡歡不言不語(yǔ)，而不喜歡男人就像竹筒倒豆子，什么都說。
都說男人應(yīng)該把情感表達(dá)出來，這說明我們并非沒有感情的動(dòng)物。不錯(cuò)，我們確實(shí)有一些，但隱而不露，若要表達(dá)出來就變味兒了。
我不是生物學(xué)家，但我猜想男人這種動(dòng)物天生就是沉默寡言的。我甚至認(rèn)為男人天生就是彼此孤立的，孤獨(dú)是我們的自然狀態(tài)。即使成了朋友，也是無聲的友誼，這使得我們能彼此獨(dú)立地活著。
一旦男人間建立起友誼，友誼本身就已說明了一切。至少對(duì)我們來說，情感是明顯的。我們的沉默，主要就是來自于對(duì)這份情感的欣賞。
I believe, in fact, that most women would prefer a man to be gloomily uncommunicative than to spill his guts at the drop of a hat.
The push for men to express their feelings presumes that we have feelings, and we do have a few, but they remain submerged, and the airing of them often violates their authenticity.
I am no biologist, but my guess is that the male human animal was programmed for silence. I would go so far as to argue that men were programmed to be isolated from one another and that aloneness is our natural state. Silence in male friendships is our way of being alone with each other.
Once men have established a friendship that itself is the word. The affection is obvious, at least to us. A main component of our silence is an appreciation of the affection.
男人的沉默往往被過多地談?wù)撉疫^分指責(zé)了。可以肯定的是，男人從未像女人所希望的那樣開誠(chéng)布公地說出自己的心里話，但無言的理解，在男人當(dāng)中卻很管用，尤其在維持友誼的時(shí)候。
我相信事實(shí)上大多數(shù)女人都寧愿男人郁郁寡歡不言不語(yǔ)，而不喜歡男人就像竹筒倒豆子，什么都說。
都說男人應(yīng)該把情感表達(dá)出來，這說明我們并非沒有感情的動(dòng)物。不錯(cuò)，我們確實(shí)有一些，但隱而不露，若要表達(dá)出來就變味兒了。
我不是生物學(xué)家，但我猜想男人這種動(dòng)物天生就是沉默寡言的。我甚至認(rèn)為男人天生就是彼此孤立的，孤獨(dú)是我們的自然狀態(tài)。即使成了朋友，也是無聲的友誼，這使得我們能彼此獨(dú)立地活著。
一旦男人間建立起友誼，友誼本身就已說明了一切。至少對(duì)我們來說，情感是明顯的。我們的沉默，主要就是來自于對(duì)這份情感的欣賞。