BY STEPHEN R .COVEEY
The first habit is 1)proactivity. Be proactive. The word proactivity is fairly common in management literature, but you won't find it in the dictionary. It means more than merely taking 2)initiatives, it means that as a human being you take responsibility for your own life.
Look at the word responsibility, ability to choose your response, response-ability. I suggest effective people are proactive, thatis they take responsibility, their behavior is a product of their own decisions, based on values, rather than being a product of their conditions, based on feelings. For instance, you are planning a picnic with your family. You're excited. You have all the preparations. You've decided where to go, and then it becomes stormy...killing your plan. Proactive people carry weather within them. They realize what their purpose really was, and they creatively have a picnic elsewhere even if it's in their own basement with some special games, and make the best of that situation. The opposite of being proactive is to be reactive. Reactive people would say, "What's the use, we can't do anything," "Oh this is so upsetting after all of our preparations we've made these arrangements." And the whole spirit of 3)negativism will tend to pervade those people's minds and also the family. That's being reactive.
Being proactive is really just being true to your human nature. Your basic nature is to act, and not be acted upon. That's true, despite widely accepted theories of 4)determinism used to explain human nature. Determinism says, that you don't really choose anything, that whatyou call choices, are nothing more than automatic responses to outside conditions or stimuli.
The language of reactive people, are people who are determined by their environment, or by their conditions, or by their conditioning or their genetic makeup. "This I can't, that's my nature." "...can't, don't have time." "I have to, I have to." "I must." See the whole spirit is of that language is the transfer of responsibility, I am not responsible, able to choose my response, the spirit is, I am not responsible, psychologically isn't that easier to say than "I'm a flake,"and "I'm irresponsible." The problem is, this is a self-fulfilling 5)prophecy. People who believe they are determined will produce the evidence to support the belief, and they increasingly feel victimized and out of control. They're not in charge of their life or their destiny at all.
When you are proactive, you don't deny that genetics, upbringing and environment make a difference. But you see them as influences only. A proactive person exercises free will, the freedom to choose the response that best applies to your values. In that way you gain control of your circumstances, rather than being controlled by them.
積極人生從7個(gè)習(xí)慣開(kāi)始
史蒂芬.r.科維（著）
第一個(gè)習(xí)慣是“積極”。積極向上?！?積極”這個(gè)詞在管理文獻(xiàn)中十分常見(jiàn)，但在字典里卻找不到。它的意思不僅是指主動(dòng)性，還指作為一個(gè)人，你必須為自己的生活負(fù)責(zé)。
觀看“責(zé)任”（respon-sibility）這個(gè)詞，它的字面意義是“反應(yīng)選擇能力”，是一種選擇能力。我之所以說(shuō)有效率的人都積極向上，那是因?yàn)樗麄兌伎蠐?dān)負(fù)起責(zé)任，他們的行為遵從他們自己的決定，建立在價(jià)值觀上，而不是客觀環(huán)境和情緒的產(chǎn)物。例如，你計(jì)劃和家人去野餐，你很興奮，做了充分的準(zhǔn)備。你決定好了地點(diǎn)，然后卻下起了暴雨……你的計(jì)劃泡湯了。積極的人不會(huì)受天氣左右--他們明白真正的目的是什么，他們會(huì)創(chuàng)造性地在其他的地點(diǎn)進(jìn)行野餐，哪怕是在自家的地下室里讓大家玩一些有趣的游戲，他們會(huì)充分利用好當(dāng)時(shí)的環(huán)境條件。與積極向上相對(duì)立的即是消極。消極的人會(huì)說(shuō)：“哦，有什么用，我們什么也做不了”，“哦，這太令人難過(guò)了，我們所有的準(zhǔn)備、所有的安排都泡湯了?！边@些消極情緒將滲透這些人及其家人的思想。這就是消極的后果。
積極的確是一種人類天性的反映。你的本性是行動(dòng)，而不是受影響。真實(shí)便是如此，而非為大家所接受的那樣，用決定論來(lái)詮釋性格。決定論認(rèn)為，其實(shí)你并沒(méi)做出任何選擇，我們所謂的選擇，其實(shí)只是外界條件或刺激的本能反應(yīng)而已。
消極人士說(shuō)的是受到環(huán)境、條件、和先天因素所左右的人的語(yǔ)言--“我不行，我就是這樣了”、“……不行，我沒(méi)有時(shí)間”、“我沒(méi)辦法、我沒(méi)辦法”、“我得”。這種語(yǔ)言整個(gè)地體現(xiàn)出一種不負(fù)責(zé)任的態(tài)度--我不為此負(fù)責(zé)，我沒(méi)法選擇自己的反應(yīng)，關(guān)鍵在于：我是不負(fù)責(zé)任的。要親口說(shuō)出“我不行”、“我不負(fù)責(zé)”并不是件容易事。毛病就出在這是種自發(fā)式的預(yù)言。相信決定論的人會(huì)找出證據(jù)來(lái)支持這樣的信念，他們逐漸相信自己是受害的，是失控的。他們根本無(wú)法把握自己的生活和命運(yùn)。
如果你有積極的精神，你不會(huì)否認(rèn)生理遺傳、成長(zhǎng)過(guò)程和生活環(huán)境造成的影響。但同時(shí)你僅僅把它們當(dāng)作是影響。一個(gè)積極向上的人會(huì)自愿、自由地通過(guò)做選擇來(lái)實(shí)現(xiàn)自我價(jià)值。這樣你才能逾越環(huán)境的束縛，而不是被環(huán)境所限制。
1) pro 前綴，表示“在空間或時(shí)間上優(yōu)先”，尤包含“向前進(jìn)，向前或向外突出”的意思，或用以表示更替的意思
2) initiative n. 初步，采取主動(dòng)
3) negativism n. 否定論，消極論；[心理]（對(duì)外來(lái)的命令、建議、期望或內(nèi)在的刺激如饑餓的）反抗癖，反對(duì)傾向
4) determinism n. 決定論（所有事實(shí)和發(fā)生的事情都是自然法則的實(shí)例的理論）；宿命論
5) prophecy n. 預(yù)言；受神的啟示所發(fā)表的言論或啟示
The first habit is 1)proactivity. Be proactive. The word proactivity is fairly common in management literature, but you won't find it in the dictionary. It means more than merely taking 2)initiatives, it means that as a human being you take responsibility for your own life.
Look at the word responsibility, ability to choose your response, response-ability. I suggest effective people are proactive, thatis they take responsibility, their behavior is a product of their own decisions, based on values, rather than being a product of their conditions, based on feelings. For instance, you are planning a picnic with your family. You're excited. You have all the preparations. You've decided where to go, and then it becomes stormy...killing your plan. Proactive people carry weather within them. They realize what their purpose really was, and they creatively have a picnic elsewhere even if it's in their own basement with some special games, and make the best of that situation. The opposite of being proactive is to be reactive. Reactive people would say, "What's the use, we can't do anything," "Oh this is so upsetting after all of our preparations we've made these arrangements." And the whole spirit of 3)negativism will tend to pervade those people's minds and also the family. That's being reactive.
Being proactive is really just being true to your human nature. Your basic nature is to act, and not be acted upon. That's true, despite widely accepted theories of 4)determinism used to explain human nature. Determinism says, that you don't really choose anything, that whatyou call choices, are nothing more than automatic responses to outside conditions or stimuli.
The language of reactive people, are people who are determined by their environment, or by their conditions, or by their conditioning or their genetic makeup. "This I can't, that's my nature." "...can't, don't have time." "I have to, I have to." "I must." See the whole spirit is of that language is the transfer of responsibility, I am not responsible, able to choose my response, the spirit is, I am not responsible, psychologically isn't that easier to say than "I'm a flake,"and "I'm irresponsible." The problem is, this is a self-fulfilling 5)prophecy. People who believe they are determined will produce the evidence to support the belief, and they increasingly feel victimized and out of control. They're not in charge of their life or their destiny at all.
When you are proactive, you don't deny that genetics, upbringing and environment make a difference. But you see them as influences only. A proactive person exercises free will, the freedom to choose the response that best applies to your values. In that way you gain control of your circumstances, rather than being controlled by them.
積極人生從7個(gè)習(xí)慣開(kāi)始
史蒂芬.r.科維（著）
第一個(gè)習(xí)慣是“積極”。積極向上?！?積極”這個(gè)詞在管理文獻(xiàn)中十分常見(jiàn)，但在字典里卻找不到。它的意思不僅是指主動(dòng)性，還指作為一個(gè)人，你必須為自己的生活負(fù)責(zé)。
觀看“責(zé)任”（respon-sibility）這個(gè)詞，它的字面意義是“反應(yīng)選擇能力”，是一種選擇能力。我之所以說(shuō)有效率的人都積極向上，那是因?yàn)樗麄兌伎蠐?dān)負(fù)起責(zé)任，他們的行為遵從他們自己的決定，建立在價(jià)值觀上，而不是客觀環(huán)境和情緒的產(chǎn)物。例如，你計(jì)劃和家人去野餐，你很興奮，做了充分的準(zhǔn)備。你決定好了地點(diǎn)，然后卻下起了暴雨……你的計(jì)劃泡湯了。積極的人不會(huì)受天氣左右--他們明白真正的目的是什么，他們會(huì)創(chuàng)造性地在其他的地點(diǎn)進(jìn)行野餐，哪怕是在自家的地下室里讓大家玩一些有趣的游戲，他們會(huì)充分利用好當(dāng)時(shí)的環(huán)境條件。與積極向上相對(duì)立的即是消極。消極的人會(huì)說(shuō)：“哦，有什么用，我們什么也做不了”，“哦，這太令人難過(guò)了，我們所有的準(zhǔn)備、所有的安排都泡湯了?！边@些消極情緒將滲透這些人及其家人的思想。這就是消極的后果。
積極的確是一種人類天性的反映。你的本性是行動(dòng)，而不是受影響。真實(shí)便是如此，而非為大家所接受的那樣，用決定論來(lái)詮釋性格。決定論認(rèn)為，其實(shí)你并沒(méi)做出任何選擇，我們所謂的選擇，其實(shí)只是外界條件或刺激的本能反應(yīng)而已。
消極人士說(shuō)的是受到環(huán)境、條件、和先天因素所左右的人的語(yǔ)言--“我不行，我就是這樣了”、“……不行，我沒(méi)有時(shí)間”、“我沒(méi)辦法、我沒(méi)辦法”、“我得”。這種語(yǔ)言整個(gè)地體現(xiàn)出一種不負(fù)責(zé)任的態(tài)度--我不為此負(fù)責(zé)，我沒(méi)法選擇自己的反應(yīng)，關(guān)鍵在于：我是不負(fù)責(zé)任的。要親口說(shuō)出“我不行”、“我不負(fù)責(zé)”并不是件容易事。毛病就出在這是種自發(fā)式的預(yù)言。相信決定論的人會(huì)找出證據(jù)來(lái)支持這樣的信念，他們逐漸相信自己是受害的，是失控的。他們根本無(wú)法把握自己的生活和命運(yùn)。
如果你有積極的精神，你不會(huì)否認(rèn)生理遺傳、成長(zhǎng)過(guò)程和生活環(huán)境造成的影響。但同時(shí)你僅僅把它們當(dāng)作是影響。一個(gè)積極向上的人會(huì)自愿、自由地通過(guò)做選擇來(lái)實(shí)現(xiàn)自我價(jià)值。這樣你才能逾越環(huán)境的束縛，而不是被環(huán)境所限制。
1) pro 前綴，表示“在空間或時(shí)間上優(yōu)先”，尤包含“向前進(jìn)，向前或向外突出”的意思，或用以表示更替的意思
2) initiative n. 初步，采取主動(dòng)
3) negativism n. 否定論，消極論；[心理]（對(duì)外來(lái)的命令、建議、期望或內(nèi)在的刺激如饑餓的）反抗癖，反對(duì)傾向
4) determinism n. 決定論（所有事實(shí)和發(fā)生的事情都是自然法則的實(shí)例的理論）；宿命論
5) prophecy n. 預(yù)言；受神的啟示所發(fā)表的言論或啟示