出國留學(xué)如果你可能無法避免要和外國室友一起生活，那么基于文化、生活習(xí)慣、思維方式等方面的差異，如何才能和外國室友和諧相處呢?跟出國留學(xué)網(wǎng)一起來看看吧。
如何與外國室友和諧相處?
關(guān)于request to be roommates
美國好多大學(xué)都是支持學(xué)生在申請宿舍的時候這樣做的，你可以選擇和上學(xué)之前就認識的好朋友當室友. 不得不說和之前認識的中國同學(xué)申請做室友絕對不是一個bad option，我甚至后來也后悔過當時沒這么做。
但我知道有好多朋友都特別想體驗一下和美國同學(xué)當室友的感覺，覺得這樣既新鮮，又更容易了解一個新的文化.。我不說這是too young too simple，但如果你選擇這么做的話，請一定要做好心理準備。
因為你可以算一下，如果你讓學(xué)校隨機分配室友的話，你室友和你性格和睦、生活作息規(guī)律和你一樣、愛好興趣相投、個性你還特喜歡，這些條件都滿足的概率是多少呢?一般的大U一屆都幾千人，你自己算吧。所以如果你選擇去接受這樣一個挑戰(zhàn)，請做好心理準備，并且做好以下幾個tips。
他那么做是不是故意的?
你睡覺的時候，你室友半夜回來，還在放音樂
你睡著了，他帶好幾個朋友進來有說有笑，還TM吃披薩
你學(xué)習(xí)的時候，他一定要打電話么?
有時候你真的懷疑他是不是故意讓你不舒服的，請永遠記住：不是。
因為作為室友的話，沒人會沒事閑的浪費這種能量和經(jīng)歷。美國學(xué)生從小的成長經(jīng)歷讓他們很多人都比較自我，可能好多中國同學(xué)剛來的時候真的很不適應(yīng)，覺得他非常不忍讓、不懂得考慮別人的感受。但美國同學(xué)邏輯不是這樣的，他們會想：你既然沒抱怨、沒跟我說不能這樣做，就說明你很comfortable with it。
所以千萬不要因為他們不能讓你容忍的行為而義憤填膺、甚至去采取報復(fù)手段。這真的是文化的不同，不要因為不了解就去judge室友的品行，導(dǎo)致說話像吃了槍藥、關(guān)系僵化...
他做了讓你十分不爽的事情?
比如你覺得室友帶著“異性朋友”回來留宿，你學(xué)習(xí)的時候從來都不考慮要安靜...
記住，要微笑...一定要像聊天一樣去抱怨...千萬千萬不要發(fā)火。你也千萬不要想著一時忍忍算了，因為如果室友習(xí)慣了那么不considerate，他有可能會覺得這是應(yīng)該的，因為你一直沒抱怨過。
你一定要提出來，他有什么事讓你不滿了...你如果對他吵著發(fā)牢騷，他不會take you serious的...他甚至可能會覺得你只是考試沒考好、心情不好，找找茬，不是理智的交談，所以不會從內(nèi)心接受你的抱怨。一定要禮貌、理智的說，而不是吵...
你可以自己想一下，有人跟你抱怨你所做的啥事，若果他跟你吵的話，你會聽他的么?就算為了面子，也想吵回去，甚至有揍他一頓的沖動吧...如果他和顏悅色地跟你說呢，你會好意思不聽么?他也一樣...要好好說，讓他不好意思不聽你的，這也他也會更尊重和佩服你的理智，而不是讓魔鬼一樣的沖動徹底毀掉你的個人形象...
室友or朋友?
室友一定是你的好朋友嗎?可以告訴你，對大多數(shù)人來說，沒這么幸運。也許他只是someone who happens to share a room with you。所以不要對他的expectation太高. 但college里好多事不是只有兩個極端的，不是好朋友，就一定要互不相容么，肯定不至于。
如果你沒那么幸運，室友恰好不是你朋友那type的，那就努力和他做一個關(guān)系很不錯的acquitance吧。平時沒什么可聊的，說說天氣總行吧...就算你倆不是一個major的，說說你這周作業(yè)多不多，下周有木有考試啥的總行吧...文化不一樣，跟他說說中國啥樣總行吧...有點好吃的，和他分享分享，他會好意思不讓你用他冰箱么?他甚至下回還會和你分享吧...
當然如果你夠幸運，和室友就是朋友(我周圍有美國同學(xué)就做到了，但說實話并不常見...)那你就等著大家羨慕吧，別大一結(jié)束分別得時候痛哭流涕互不舍得。
Conclusion words
反正事情就是這樣，和一個和你性格、文化、背景十分不一樣的人能成功相處一年(當然里面有點磕磕碰碰是一定的)，你會很佩服自己的，這是及有成就感的，可能和CS作業(yè)所有test cases pass的成就感相當吧...當然request to be roommates的同學(xué)可能就體驗不到這種經(jīng)歷帶來的成就感了。
說實話，就留學(xué)生的經(jīng)歷，怎么也沒想到我現(xiàn)在能和室友關(guān)系還不錯，我們倆真是曾經(jīng)對對方mean到極致，甚至吵到要對方搬走的程度. 這一切只是在他過生日的時候，我送了他一個不到5美元的禮物的時候結(jié)束的，但他很開心，現(xiàn)在還天天用我送他的那個杯子...一句話總結(jié)：要對他好，好到不好意思反駁你的抱怨，好到不好意思不和你分享他的好吃的...大家大學(xué)生活要給力呀!!
下面奉上美國人寫的室友相處之道，美式思維更直接!
1Be clear from the beginning.
Do you know in advance that you hate it when someone hits the snooze button fifteen times every morning? That you're a neat freak? That you need ten minutes to yourself before talking to anyone after you wake up? Let your roommate know as soon as you can about your little quirks and preferences. It's not fair to expect him or her to pick up on them right away, and communicating what you need is one of the best ways to eliminate problems before they become problems.
2Address things when they're little.
Is your roommate always forgetting her stuff for the shower, and taking yours? Are your clothes being borrowed faster than you can wash them? Addressing things that bug you while they're still little can help your roommate be aware of something she may not otherwise know. And addressing little things is much easier than addressing them after they've become big.
3Respect your roommate's stuff.
This may seem simple, but it's probably one of the biggest reasons why roommates experience conflict. Don't think he'll mind if you borrow his cleats for a quick soccer game? For all you know, you just stepped over an uncrossable line. Don't borrow, use, or take anything without getting permission first.
4Be careful of who you bring into your room -- and how often.
You may love having your study group into your room. But your roommate may not. Be mindful of how often you bring people over. If your roommate studies best in the quiet, and you study best in a group, can you alternate who hits the library and who gets the room?
5Lock the door and windows.
This may seem like it has nothing to do with roommate relationships, but how would you feel if your roommate's laptop got stolen during the ten seconds it took you to run down the hall? Or vice versa?
6Be friendly, without expecting to be best friends.
Don't go into your roommate relationship thinking that you are going to be best friends for the time you're at school. It may happen, but expecting it sets both of you up for trouble. You should be friendly with your roommate but also make sure you have your own social circles.
7Be open to new things.
Your roommate may be from someplace you've never heard of. They may have a religion or lifestyle that is completely different from your own. Be open to new ideas and experiences, especially as it to relates to what your roommate brings into your life. That's why you went to college in the first place, right?!
8Be open to change.
You should expect to learn and grown and change during your time at school. And the same should happen to your roommate, if all goes well. As the semester progresses, realize things will change for both of you. Be comfortable addressing things that unexpectedly come up, setting new rules, and being flexible to your changing environment.
9Address things when they're big.
You may not have been totally honest with tip #2. Or you may suddenly find yourself with a roommate who goes wild after being shy and quiet the first two months. Either way, if something gets to be a big problem quickly,deal with it as soon as you can.
10If nothing else, follow the Golden Rule.
Treat your roommate like you'd like to be treated. No matter what your relationship is at the end of the year, you can take comfort knowing you acted like an adult and treated your roommate with respect.
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